"Triangle of Karpman" came to an end.
Hello dear friends! What is behind this great name? The name stands for a new psychotherapeutic model of relations, the understanding of which will enable the technician to understand and apply it in their practice.
To understand this transactional model, I went for a fairly long time, about ten years. And I think at the moment its one of the most effective short-term and giving stable results in the integrative approach of psychotherapy as the primary method and secondary.
Therefore, I want to share it with you colleagues, because it helps me and will help you. Those that are using this method, certainly not a panacea, but it has widely applied in various psychological problems related to social adaptation, co-dependency, relationship problems to yourself, to others, to the world, the violation of personal boundaries in the formation of various adaptive traits, and skills of the individual (self-esteem, self-confidence, self-regulation, etc.).
will Attempt to outline the successive stages of this mini) the psychotherapeutic process.
Step # 1.
Take a simple example and often request "the Crisis in the marital relationship, misunderstanding, conflicts, quarrels." And people came to the reception and says he wants to deal with it and understand that it does not.
I will try to describe as much as possible with detail, but if somewhere is too General, sorry – I tried))
so there you go) To start the person is given the psycho education, in the understanding of the theory of TA – transactional analysis and it is proposed to deal with those publichnosti of which he had just learned, namely the Parent Adult Child, in which he of these roles resides more in the relationship and in yourself). Here at the practice or it's Parent sub-personality responsible for the control, rules, responsibilities, and the carrier function of giperatidnosti in the relationship, or it's a sub-personality responsible for feelings of pleasure and seeking to avoid responsibility.
So while in theory gives understanding and resource part of the Adult that the person needs to strengthen himself. In practice, the problems in the relationship, people in some of these publichnosti supported more. As this imbalance is often the result of deficit and dysfunctional relations in the family where the child grew up. He gives specific exercises on the track, now and conscious observation of the situations in which it "sticks" more. Doing these exercises the person fills in the table. Based on what you felt as a Child or a Parent, and thought how behaved.
Then making the analysis of homework, the person begins to understand and monitor the behavior of which way his bias, who he respects more "Parent" or "Child".
Step 2.
After understanding their wrong models (let's call them so) behavior, using THE client reveals the problematic relationship of the Karpman triangle RESCUER, VICTIM AND TYRANT.
namely, the point is that if a person is more in the position of the Parent in the relationship, he becomes either a Lifeguard or a Tyrant, but if in the personality of the Child, the usual Victim. The drama triangle is what I call it "the Script Without joy."
And first, again given the understanding that from the triangle of Karpman, three) may be released only one Transactional Adult. Adult opens this triangle is the fact that it ceases to be manipulation on their neighbors because awareness enhances perception, and orientation shapes the motivation and behavior of the individual).
In human behavior, this model is strengthened rather quickly when he stops to save or to ask for help, and trying to learn to take responsibility for themselves. To strengthen this resource Adult models are given again the table given exercises again, doing that people start to generate new behavioral reflex constructive behavior and healthy boundaries, cognitive, emotional and behavioral levels.
in Addition, there is a study and analysis that helped, what hurt, what worked, what did not work and so on.
Those at this level an Adult client understands how to behave properly, those environmentally friendly and constructive. Those, in fact, the General scheme is built.
1. INFORMATION 2. NEW BEHAVIORS 3. SKILLS 4. HABITS
5. KOMPETENTNOSTI
Step 3.
Man proposes a new meta-model of life and relationships.
This is a new triangle), and you say, puzzled, as once again, but how long can these triangles!)) in fact, the triangles do not see anything wrong (well, except for love, although as they say on taste and color)))
This is a triangle of a healthy relationship, which I discovered at a certain stage and now share with you dear friends.
so the curtain and cake icing) but seriously what is this new model? I'm with anticipation describe.
There are also three roles, but they are healthy, free and environmentally friendly. This is the model that forms the Adult. They realized what is the point that Parent and Child, form a triangle of Karpman, and Adult forms triangle partnership Vukova). We all stand on the shoulders of geniuses))
the STUDENT HELPER TEACHER
the STUDENT is such personality in the personality) that does not run away from problems, and solves them, people here can ask for help, support resources, without fear of failure. He is looking for various options meet their needs, and the errors examines how the experience, and recognizes the opinions and viewpoints of others, but remains free in choosing its solutions. And unlike the Victim, he understands his responsibility and takes it out on himself.
the TEACHER knows how to protect and defend their rights and freedom. Trains, can control someone, but do not teach helplessness leads. Its aim is the dictatorship over the individual, as the Pursuer, and the salvation of the situation. He will not go where can help and knows the boundaries of his kompetentnosti. If something, someone does not like, it first looks for the cause in itself.
the ASSISTANT Is not a rescue, from which it differs in that respect the resources of the student and recognizes its right to solve the difficulties and problems, have a different point of view, to say their opinion and to recognize his right. And again, this is my favorite internal locus of control (those who want to know more, see my previous article)., analysis, planning, goal-setting, fan solutions, points of view etc. But the point here is this - First I got for myself, and then there are others."
And here, too, the client is given exercises, techniques and skills that he dlet tablice and according to the described scheme worked out and fixed.
And it turns out so that the client thanks to the boats of the sub-personalities THAT gradually swims, from the dramatic triangle of Karpman triangle partnerships and opportunities to become a "model member" of a healthy, long term relationship, which can develop in a lifetime.
Dear friends, it is clear that in practice, it is very not easy to do in different situations, which is really a lot and there still a lot of improvements and analysis, and a lot that you have to screw the trying). But even this tentative scheme in all its incompleteness it works and gives tangible results to the psychologist and which are expressed in the results of his clients and their gratitude))
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