In our society there is a special kind of people who always worry about somebody, eager for someone to save or rehabilitate. Others treat them respectfully and say: "Here if it were not for these, what would become of our world". And here it is a portrait of sacrificial and compassionate individual who not sparing himself, saves his fellow parasites, children, lazy husbands, the losers and other needy members of society. He receives dividends in the form of approval and sympathy of others and the inner feelings that he like the "all" holds. Call this character "rescuer".
But is he good in his quest to save everyone and everything? Who, if not it fosters irresponsible colleagues who know what is this "great" man and it is always possible to shift responsibility. He creates a comfortable environment for your family members to ensure that they are not bothered by their own efforts and continued to drift. All the same he will come to rescue and solve all problems. That is his "rescue" he creates a helpless and irresponsible consumers.
the question Arises: "why is he doing this?". In response, you can hear a lot of very reasonable arguments, that he thus cares about the welfare of those he loves and that without him they all would've been lost. But deep in his soul hides a very different desire. He wants to be higher and more significant than others, to manage and control. Solving other people's problems, he satisfies his internal need for dominance and love. After all, he was able to find a way out of a desperate situation, it means he is more intelligent, competent, meaningful and everyone should listen to his opinion. At the same time, he did not hesitate rushed to help others, forgetting about their own Affairs and problems, and therefore he is worthy of love. But he misses the fact that doing other people their responsibility, it deprives them of faith in their own power, disrupts their psychological boundaries, they impose their value system and thus puts them in dependence. And if not the unfortunate and helpless, the "rescuer" is simply not going to do something. So, he needs a new victim who will need his care, protection, control, and salvation. The best partner for him would be an alcoholic or a drug addict. Due to the helplessness of the other "rescuer" fills his life with sense of self-importance.
the Difference between "rescue" and an ordinary person is that if an ordinary person hears the call for help, he will come and "teach to fish", and "rescuer" will give the finished product. Moreover, he will come to help, even if requested to do so.
a companion of "the lifeguard" is a "victim", she is always unhappy and helpless, as its not save. To be successful and happy it is not convenient, because it means to take responsibility for your life, to solve problems independently, to lose the pity and support of others.
In the doomed attempt to save the ward, the guardian assumes the role of the victim and who is saved, he sees a source of punishment and troubles, that is "Stalker". He gets angry, irritated and begins to take revenge on those whom they rescued, to tell him hurtful words, to punish. Thus, the "rescuer" becomes the "persecutor". The "victim" becomes even more miserable and in need of salvation. "Lifeguard" was full of righteous anger, returns to his "noble" mission.
the Role of "rescuer" due to the alleged altruism gives its wearer the ability to dominate men. In order not to lose this privileged position, he would not allow "victim" to become a successful person, because it would deprive him of the power and meaning of existence.
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