I do not think that time crisis is an important period for personality development.
This awareness of self and of the boundaries of his body. What does it mean? Which means that the baby wants to be independent, has an opinion on everything and be sure that his opinion differed from yours. It is important!
Wants to be heard (parents) knows very well what he wants in the current moment (it is possible to learn from him).
This is the age of incredibly huge cognitive interest, the age of great discoveries and manifestations of talent.
At this age are clearly visible strengths of personality and natural temperament.
But at this age parents complain to the whims and tantrums, aggression, and tearfulness.
If this happens, it means that the natural requirements for the development of the brain and psyche are not satisfied.
What is and is not necessary for parents to do during this period?
- Need patience and allow them to be independent. Don't rush for food when you dress undresses, if they're trying to do something yourself (brush your teeth, cut circles, etc.). Since forming confidence in yourself, you don't have to explain why it is needed?
- you want to limit in your vocabulary the word "impossible", because if you understand not only what life-threatening, it is a question of life and death!
for Example, stand on the sill of an open window, to run in front of cars and things like that, in such cases use.
Else can, either yourself or with for adults. You can run through puddles, you can fry an egg, you can cut the bread, you can knead the mud with your hands, you can knead bread by hand.
of Course we will teach him to respect the bread and food in General, but it then and now an important experience. The more experience, the more harmonious development.
the child needs to be exact mode, it will reduce fatigue, and with it the aggression and tearfulness.
And if the mode to make a visual in the form of a drawing (that will be in the morning and what will follow after walking, etc.), such a visual focus in time to relieve the alarm, and it will go and neuroses.
- Resort to positive reinforcement of good behavior. What does it mean?
If the hysteria (in the psychology of the undesirable behavior) are repeated again and again, then they are (hysterics) received reinforcements for adults otherwise this behavior would not be or would be only once.
NEVER satisfy such a demanding toddler, be SURE to be in this constant.
for Example, if you went to the store and expect such behavior while the child is calm and praise him that he is so nicely behaved that he did well and grew quite large, even if he "slips" and will require the purchase of yelling at the whole store, calmly take him out, not abusing and not accusing.
the plan is: ignore unwanted behavior (important! without criticism), and if it behaves well in the same situation, actively encouraged.
- Need to create a situation where the child can make a choice. Remember that without the ability to choose it will actively resist (age feature).
this is already a know and use, but I'll reiterate.
for Example, if you just go to grandma's, don't ask whether he will go to Granny and ask, "are we going there. You wear red mittens or green?" or "that way or that" or "bus or streetcar". I think the meaning is clear.
In General, friends, the motto of this period is the accessibility of the environment for active learning, then all needs will be met and the baby will be happy and peaceful.
PS. in the photo my son Nicholas, he is three years
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