recently I watched a few movies - fantastic and very life. Don't want to be distracted by stories, so do not even call these films. Just perusing the last I heard the offer of the hero to wipe out the memories of traumatic life events. And he refused, like the heroes of the previous three films.
Wait, I told myself. I have heard it. In the movies the heroes refuse to wipe, since I feel the value of their painful experiences. They are afraid to be empty, as if the nightmares fill their existence. And it's not in the highest sense of mission and the like. The matter is that there was something inside.
But really, in a sense this is true. Remember yourself, the client history. People do not hurry to part with their nightmares. And the feeling underlying this resistance is fear. Listen for yourself.
Developing this idea further, come to the conclusion that the simple filling of the inner world of traumatic experiences is not enough. The fact of injury by structuring the inner world. There are events more or less pleasant or unpleasant and more or less dangerous before or after the incident. Remember your experience: "But that was before the divorce/mom's death/illness/accident". In the case of psychotic episode in a person's life abruptly torn into before and after.
During growing resentment in this world!))) Do not want, do not want to build their lives around the trauma. And begin to remember))) of Course, this is wrong. And all my study it was aimed. In this case affects not the mere fact of any event, which is for all people necessarily traumatic. If we recall the theory of trauma, the trauma becomes an event that caused an unbearable experience. "Unbearable" means the refusal to experience this event in the fullness of feelings, thoughts and physical sensations.
It is the awareness and experience again the bygone events can save people from injury as points of condensation of experience. Of course the memory of the event is not going anywhere good. The important difference between trying to survive the initial trauma and the present moment. Now the client is not alone, he has support in the person of the psychologist, who himself has an experience chronic injuries and dissolution opaque pieces of experience. Psychologist time to remind you that you are not alone, that you're 40 years old, you are the master of sports - was about to say the words that will give strength and allow you to go free.
a common illusion that can be cleared from the injury alone. Fail to consider it, even as in its place is formed a protective "blind spot". Need specially trained people) the Main thing to remember is that when the exit is not visible, it is still there.
All the joy, freedom!
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