As are caused by irrational installation? Part dysfunctional, incorrect ideas about reality are formed from collision with obstructions and distorted processing of information received from outside, part the result of improper upbringing and receive from other persons dysfunctional thoughts. But today I was interested in another kind of installations. Those who once were themselves a reasonable, rational principles. At a certain stage of life of the individual they were even useful. adaptive. For example in a certain period, for example, the Soviet period of history, "you Need to be a good specialist and work at the same company for a long time, maybe all my life", was quite appropriate and helped to climb the ladder pretty high. But in the present economic conditions, this setup could be dangerous and confusing.
Take the marital relationship. Many of us come into adult family life with thoughts of long. happy life together. And this is probably correct. In the beginning, it inspires the newlyweds. the years pass. Certain dynamics of marriage may wind up in a dead end. Illness of one partner, death, abusive relationship(husband-wife). It is obvious that some changes have distorted their relationship forever. Yes. it is forever. However, the installation remains the same "My partner can't do that with me." But the fact of the matter is that it already comes that way. That is the worst and most likely forever. Installation should remain unchanged, not considering neobratimost dynamic metamorphosis?!
One of my clients cheated spouse who survived the betrayal of his wife, the first few meetings asserted the curse of the " We were always so close. We did not conceal anything from each other. Do I deserve this?!".
the design of the "We've been" doubtful. Refers to generalizations, and even plays with the idea of merit and of Nezalezhnosti inflicted injuries. In this case, helped appeal to grown-up and changed the habits of the son. an unhappy spouse willingly agreed with the assumption that our children change with age, over time. We are not subjected to the moral evaluation of the act of the wife. Here you know that would say the husband or his relatives, we intentionally talked about the nature of time and what time does with the affections of the people, their attitude to life. That was not the justification of the act of the wife, and the idea of the necessity to update their submissions.
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