Fear is a gift or "curse"?
Article for those who engage in self-reflection and professionally work with people
Conscious breathing helps to transform fears. For those who feel your body, for it energy, make it much easier.
If you carefully and honestly look at fear from the outside, what do you see? What is this quality? Forms? Color? Smell?
I see the quality of fear as a huge clot, the energy generator... but what shape is what is behind it? Each is its own unique variation.
It fears helped me on this path of life to meet with you.
it took thirty seven years to see to produce - to transform basic fears and to communicate with you, to feel that the body is a continuation of large multi-dimensional me.
Now I open a private plan for life... Share what I saw and realized at the moment. Those who are on the path of knowledge, remembering yourself, work with people, my experience may be useful.
Till 30 years, I even had no idea that I live in "realm of fear" - that was my normal way of life. I desperately and passionately go through life as if reeling in circles and stepping on the same rake, not realizing and not realizing the fears themselves and their projections in everyday life. One of them: "fear Cheetah girls" is to be abandoned, betrayed. In General, I considered myself a lucky person, so optimistic I was not to occupy. A lot of friends, successful work in the largest banking structure in Eastern Europe, traveling around the world, every week their favorite thing – drawing in the art Studio. Only my relationship with men was only sporadically. The idea that something is wrong, leaked sometimes, through the depths of life events.
to begin to look closely inside yourself it took me time, experience and a meeting with the man, due to the interaction with whom I finally saw all my fears.
Interesting and exciting to realize that the combination of my fears now there is such a long-awaited meeting of body and soul. In other words, if in personal life I all originally organized and went like clockwork, there would be no incentive to seek the answers to the questions – to go, to dig to the bottom.
so how can you understand that you live fears (some of signs):
- You seem to walk in a circle, stepping on the same garden tools :)
- develop relationships with people (parents, man, woman, friends, colleagues)
- You seem to go against the flow of life, resisting heavy wind, achieve what you want through force, voltage
- You categorically are not satisfied with something in personal and intimate relationships and you've got to resolve this conflict
- You are in a deficit (e.g., attention, livelihoods, gifts, love, etc.)
- One of the latest instances of the manifestation of fear - our body. What is called disease in the body is the result of destructive emotions and attitudes
Now, after many years of research itself, and several years of work with the people who see that all settings, programs, fears that "live" in the head "continue" in the body.
the First time I read about Louise hay. I remember then feeling like you always knew it.
a few years Later, after receiving a second higher psychological education, psychological course "working with trauma" I met biodinamico – modern method of body-oriented therapy. Biodynamically approach on the basis of empirical research describes the direct relationship between mental functions and muscle tone in the body. Then in practice, I saw the fears, "sealed" in my head, reflected in the body. For example, posture, gait, the placing of the feet, thighs, etc. – reflect the structure of human nature, his mental characteristics.
According to biodynamically model initial structure formation begins before birth and continues until 11-13 years under the influence of the external environment taking into account individual peculiarities of the person. And then from puberty until roughly 21 years of re - "play", and its final formation.
Thus, the phrase "we all come from childhood" carries significant meaning.
After several years of working with people as a psychologist and many years, at the moment, I see that fear is a major factor that constrains development, while performing a protective function. Often fear is the pain.
Some of the key ones:
- Fear or fear of life, fear of death, fear manifestations to be what is
- Fear of unmet needs, fear of poverty, hunger, fear of abandonment, rejection, fear of being alone, fear to ask for help
- Fear of being independent, Autonomous, fear of lack of support, fear to try new things, fear to trust
- Fear to Express emotions, to act, to exert power, to take responsibility
- Fear of intimacy, of sexuality
- Fear to do his will, to voice your opinion, to say "no"
- Fear of being like everyone else (to blend in), fear of individuality
basically, all the fears, grievances, claims, condemnation and any destructive installation result from painful life experience. They are passed from parents, at the DNA level and using verbal installation, starting from the moment of stay in their first home - the womb, broadcast society, and, according to my feelings, accumulated from past incarnations of the soul in the body. About the incarnation is a separate big topic.
after two years of study at the psychological Institute I have got acquainted with the technique of discharge of the neurons through conscious breathing, imagery and verbalization of the process. Simultaneously, intensified, became more manifest, my feeling currents of energy in the body, around it, and it became clear as through this practice it is possible to defuse fears in the body.
When once again I had the anger, hurt, claim, or any other unpleasant emotion-a reaction to any external influence, I began to look for its root source and each time the path of attention led to one of fear. Then I started to look at this fear. Sometimes came a childhood memory – a phrase or situation in which it was formed. Then turned to the body – which body part responds and began to defuse tension in the head and body through the breath, accompanying the words – "I take out of fear..." and discharged through breath and release the tension in the neurons of the body. It took me about a year to defuse and release their essential fears. A great joy, when the energy is like a river freely flows through the body.
Now in their professional activity of a psychologist, an art therapist, I use this method of conscious breathing. At the sessions we go through the memories, turning to the most remote and forgotten corners of consciousness, subconscious. Get install, fears, situations that have long been dusty under a layer of life experience, but not forgotten body and the subconscious. Such installations also contribute to the formation of the reality of human life, forming chains and conglomerates of neurons in the body. We seemed to re-pass way of life, from the womb to the moment here and now - "displayed", clarifies and we begin to withdraw-to transform basic fears that prevent a person to live. A necessary condition for the release of fears is the desire of the man to do it and a willingness to work independently because of the restructuring of neural pathways, spelled out in the body, it takes time.
Breath... with him life begins!
Without it, it ends.
Meet with the love of every breath,
gratefully say goodbye to every out-breath.
the photo: "Transformation", 50*70, oil on canvas on cardboard, 2012, author-Daria Shepeleva
Author:
Daria Shepeleva (Blue Sphere) is an artist, art therapist, psychologist, poet, art conductor for the disclosure of creativity.
Source: https://yogajournal.ru/blogs/darya-shepelyeva/strakh-dar-ili-proklyate
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