Those, in fact, even in the same family, children may be written in different scripts. Bern even on this occasion there is one joke, and another sad story that one family had two sons and mother both gave a message "You end up in a mental hospital". And one of them was a psychiatrist and the other a patient of a mental hospital. Those two ran scripts mom, but everyone.
Therefore, based on the "Life scenarios" are vital position or order, the findings and impressions of the child about himself, about the world and other people, based on the suggestion of the parents.
And if you give an example of the familiar tale "the Wizard of oz", there is a big, strong lion, who without courage – without courage, it is an order.
arrive at something like this, the child develops stance for example, "I'm not good – they are good" and he thinks that I'm bad, I'm the lion without courage or eagle with clipped wings)).
Then a "Life - style - "I'm a lion without courage" and the child begins to seek how to live, how to live like me? And he starts looking for people to chat with, and begins to identify with them. Type "live Here so I like lions without courage, go there, it's something to do, so behave, and I now understand how I live." And then the child identificeres this scenario, gradually with the age proceeds to its implementation in his life.
the Next question was how to get out of these scenarios. I answer, that in fact all you get out of them is not necessary, because if one lives and adapts properly, efficiently meets their vital needs and no script is not stopping him and for God's sake as they say.
But there are those people who do suffer from these scenarios, and some of these people are concerned to see changes in your life.
so, how to work with these things. There is a very good technique, which is called "Transformation".
the Essence of which is that first person says their problem, and then do the analysis of the life position of a person. For example, a person says: "I Have strong outbursts of anger and rage, I was very enrage these people are bastards who do this to me at work, cut me on the road rascals, the wife saw, I can't be mad at them if they behave and do me an injustice."
And it turns out that the person having this scenario can not completely control and to perceive reality, to develop to achieve their goals .
And it turns out in the process that the person is one of the main unconscious life positions I'm OK – you're not OK. Those I'm good, you're bad. All people should be good, and good is to match the expectations, and if not, then how can they not anger.
continue with human work, which help him to understand his stance, the requirements, the next step is to analyze how this vital position and requirement, embodied through the life style that hinders the person.
the Fact that a person is angry, depressed, suffering in their relationships, living as a victim is not satisfying their vital needs, is his "Life style".
And one of the main goals at this level work from the position of transactional analysis lies in the fact that the person is aware of your scenario, understand his stance and he built "Scenario with joy, which is based on autonomy, freedom, implementing a green and healthy attitudes and behaviors. And this is the main script of "happy" called "I'm OK – You're OK".
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