Often advice people talk about the desire to control everything.
the sad thing is, those who are near.
This existence can only be called" marriage " and not a family.
Causes of control is different.
it is based on a distrust of the world.
If you go into the analysis, the roots of this distrust and fear can be found in early childhood.
I do not trust , because it's dangerous.
we Must always be prepared. Otherwise, there will be something that will bring suffering and pain.
this control consumes a lot of energy.
a Person is not able to relax.
This happens with those who are trying to control everything and everyone.
Such people have a strong desire to subdue the situation her plan does not give the opportunity to those who are near live my life.
They install the software to sync the device to have everything under total control: correspondence, messengers, social networks, phone calls, SMS.
Sometimes the one who is surrounded, so to speak, of spider - man, admits these actions, observing the development of events, there are those who are not even aware of that him (her) so thoroughly control.
When they learn about it, experience misunderstanding and disappointment.
" that kind of love doesn't give life, suppresses, destroys, strangles, kills her ",- wrote in his work Erich Fromm.
After all, we are talking about respect for the freedom of another person.
is it Possible to have another and strive for 100% know about him?
After all, this is not love , but dependency.
This is violation of all valid boundaries and personal space.
whether happy is he who is in control?
And the one in control?
Those who are trying so hard to follow, talking about the impossibility to breathe, the desire to be rid of this obsession and to be free from feelings of being crushed.
Personal space is for everyone and the invasion of it leads to discomfort.
Erich Fromm talked about the respect for the freedom of others and responsibility for its implementation, unless , of course, is love.
Surveillance, threats and blackmail destroy especially the one who allows himself such behavior.
And starts the perception of the world through the prism of:" the Circle is unsafe and a lot of enemies. "
And all just because people argued with himself.
Life in constant fear and struggle leads to serious distortions.
And well, if something happens that helps the inspector to think about the internal struggle with yourself.
in Fact, the tracking of another person You will not be able to block his Soul, blocking his contact and communication.
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