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Often, chronic conflicts are the difference acquired in childhood attitudes and values of the spouses, material and spiritual. Everyone thinks their understanding of the meaning of life and the purpose of achieving it the only correct one. And consensus is achieved only if there are no differences in the actions and decisions bearing joint nature.
As you know, internal conflict man, there may be periods of emotional decline and irritability cause and increase dissatisfaction with the partner. He begins to play the role of "lightning rod". And the outcome of the conflict depends on the psychological state of both spouses.
in addition, partners can experience deep dissatisfaction with oneself, his weakness, laziness, and this is reflected in relationships with loved ones. In such cases, criticism of the shortcomings for the human is very painful and creates conflict.
There is another term, giving satisfaction or dissatisfaction with the marriage. claims, expectations and demands of the person to the family, its goals and opportunities to achieve them. Most often, the model is formed in the parent families of the couple. And people get married, build a family life with certain queries. But when a couple is faced with unexpected difficulties, social, economic or psychological, it may allow the spouses to discord.
Consider the laws that leads to the disorder in pair:1) the partners lose mutual respect;2) in a pair are opposed to each other individual desires that time after time leads to stress;3) a long time is not reduced the autonomy of the beliefs of the spouses, their interests and aspirations;4) love fades away, failing to evolve into a solid friendship, which is the next stage of conjugal love;5) spouses are not supportive of each other, mutual understanding is missing, there is the alienation;6) there is a complete misalignment of action in domestic and worldly Affairs, any other family activities;7) piling up negative emotions, claim partners, and the balance of positive emotions is much lower.sorry, currently divorce many couples is perceived as the only way to resolve chronic conflicts. If you take "civil unions" into account, almost 9 out of 10 unions not live a year together.
I am convinced that in addition to the common limiting beliefs and the reasons described above, a large impact on these statistics, having a total psychological illiteracy of young people entering into family relationships. How often do participants and clients say that they first hear that people have certain psychological boundaries, emotions and needs, and each they own.
If the system of national education to introduce subjects such as psychology of relationships, confident communication and stress, it not only significantly reduced the statistics of divorces, but also influenced many other areas of our lives! And you know, I'd like to live in a society where people respect each other, know how to protect their own and not to violate the boundaries of others, know their needs and know how to Express their emotions. This nation will not be defeated!
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I Wish you to cherish your relationship, work to improve understanding and to respect each other even when the total of differences of views on any issue!
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