so, one of the most important initiation in the life of a woman is the ability to be a mother. Pregnancy, childbirth and the future of motherhood are important stages in our adult life.
Thanks to these tests, we have the opportunity to learn to practice in life truly adult position in relation to itself, others and the world in General. And this transition deserves a separate discussion.
What happens?
Why pregnancy is a unique period? In the first place because in women there is a double mystery: a new life, the transformation of the personality of the woman. And the result is not only the birth of a child, but also the birth mother of the daughter of my parents. This period presents the woman the particular requirements, not only to physiological readiness for pregnancy and birth of a child, but her most important psychological components: willingness to take responsibility for this child, the ability to sacrifice their interests for his sake, as well as the ability to take on new social roles. This is the process of formation of motherhood.
unfortunately, in our society for a long time monopolized only considered the medical approach to pregnancy and this situation exists to this day. All nine months of a woman surrounded by global care health workers: the preservation and maintenance of the basic indicators of your health, proper functioning of the body, adhering to a set weight, nutrition and many other things. Her behavior and lifestyle control the many medical professionals, giving plenty of advice and guidance on what to do and what not to do. And it is of course important, but, unfortunately, it affects only the physiological component of the process of pregnancy and, ultimately, forms the attitude to pregnant woman as a patient.
Then a pregnant woman is usual in medicine, a passive position in the period of pregnancy and in the childbirth. This leads to the fact that she was not sure neither in himself nor in his actions, feels helpless and is focused only on the advice and recommendations of health professionals and significant people.
what is facing a woman in this period?
Often, a woman does not understand what is happening to her. Why are so rapidly changing the mood from carefree joy to a sudden flood of anxiety and sadness, accompanying? Why the world has changed? Becoming particularly sensitive, the pregnant woman is often faced with a lack of understanding surrounding its urgent (pregnant) needs, and in this regard, experiencing a certain sense of isolation from the world and alone.
when Calling for information and advice to more senior, and as it seems, experienced girlfriends, a woman risks to meet with the massive flow of negative experience (a collection of some generic horror stories) of other women who just did as their duty to share and pass it on "hand in hand" to the future mothers. It makes an internal position of pregnant women even more vulnerable.
What to do?
it is Important to remember that pregnancy is not a disease! The position of psychology in this other question: pregnancy is regarded as a special transient state that affects all of life Foundation, leads to their profound changes, is an essential condition of self-realization of women, but the physiological changes are accompanied by global changes in the mental life of women. And these processes are occurring within require an understanding and development.
But the problems many are is that pregnant women are often looking for resources for a favorable birth in the outside, and practically access the resources within yourself. And it's a dead end!
Because the experience of motherhood is impossible to learn in a familiar way!!! It is impossible to predict in advance, and you must live and reside. And then the experience of others has no value. You have to remember about the uniqueness of this experience! You can go into the process of childbirth that soon be over or do anything with me! But then, whose is the birth? And who are You in this process – the guest or the hostess?
you Can be a guest, but do You realize that to give birth still have not doctors, not midwives, namely You? And then You will not be able to help their child to be born, and will only hinder him and doctors trying to help You. And you can be mistress of the situation, clearly understanding what is happening in the moment and what is most important to do right now for yourself and for the baby! And as the birth process to make effective for both.
But that's what you can learn! To learn mindfulness, learn to take responsibility for the behaviour of childbirth, learn special breathing techniques during labor, relaxation techniques and relieve muscle tension, understanding their feelings and experiences during pregnancy, during childbirth and after birth. This can help experts.
These knowledge and skills will help to shape a different, open position in childbirth, the position, allowing to consider the birth process as an existential truth (ie the truth of his life and the truth of life in itself), and open in her and through her the joy of life and the pain of knowledge associated with motherhood.
therefore, pregnancy is a time of creativity in the creation of yourself and your unborn child. And we'll talk about that next time...
sincerely, Tatiana kuroedova
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