Relationships with parents are formed all of us in different ways. The main task of parents is to teach us independence, to pass on valuable life experience and to give freedom. But this does not always happen that way. What to do if your parents have become hard? What to do if you are in a family which formed a toxic tangle?
the Parents are alcoholics sucking of the child physical and vital juices. Parents do not want to be a manipulative resentment and guilt. Parents appropriates the life of a child taking his life decisions, often requiring them to pay money, to do only as he wants parent. Parents are afraid of loneliness depriving the child of will, strength, joy and desire to live, sometimes intimidating the outside world and other people, with the replacement of the stolen care, often imaginary. The parents sexually exploit their children. Parents manipulating, degrading, devaluing, suppressing, envious, hate. Parents take out on the child, their complexes, resentment and anger. Parents wishing to seem better than others, gossiping about people. Scandalous parents. Parents are religious fanatics. Parents are not given love, respect and warmth, but require this to yourself. All this toxic relationship with their parents which need to run.
...Or we'll eat someone togetherHowever, some people live life in such a relationship forming persistent symbiotic relationship. There are many examples. A single mother and her son. Both of them can converge on the point of misogyny and form a strong symbiosis to lure into their network of women, potential brides son. Further the scheme is simple. They slowly and steadily devour. Frustrated in men, extinguished, as a woman, mother and even her blooming daughter. On the same principle, they can poison the lives of men, potentially flying to pheromones daughters. Frequent cases of father and son drink too much together or pushes together the sofa. They perfectly support each other morally in their procrastination. Similar relationships can be not only in parent-child relations, but also with other family members. For example, sister brother manipulating and destroying his relationship that he was in full possession of her when she needs it. Brother manipulating sister... Aunts, uncles...
All of this toxic symbiotic relationship existing as a rule at the expense of fresh blood. Of the people they dragged into their schemes in order to be approved by them. Usually this is toxic tangles not to start eating each other need someone to hate, to hurt, to blame, to humiliate, to hurt, to use, to do the enemy. Their accusations are far-fetched and groundless, but always confident and cruel. People may not understand what is happening and try to make excuses, cry, beg... This is incorrect behavior. Good people respect the truth, they will not allow you to lie either to himself or to others. Good people are good, they do not invent faults and not looking for them in others. Good people have a conscience, they will not behave badly towards you. Good people love, not hate. Good men praise, and not blame others for their sins. Good happy, and not jealous. Good people do not do dishonesty and pain to people in order that they might begin to accuse them of aggression that naturally erupts like a defensive reaction. With good people good, confident, and nice. Good always heals the soul. Meanness always spoils it. If the person is your soul begins to burn from the pain, resentment and hatred, if you lose the ability to feel joy, faith in themselves and often begin to think about how to stop living — you are in a toxic relationship from which you want to run.
If you run at the moment does not work hearken to the scenario of a toxic family. Define beneficiaries in a particular act of aggression. This is usually all the members of the toxic tangle, but will determine who receives what exactly. Someone needs to vent complexes. Someone wants to designate their power. Someone due to the other charges wants to show his superiority. Someone who understands that you love him only when he cry and suffer. Someone guided by material interests. Someone just like someone else's pain. Someone allows or provokes aggression and humiliation towards you to cater to other family members or to not touch it (cowardice). When the object of hatred is already defined in the toxic ligaments and tension for those objects that become food, humiliated, popechenie when there is no fresh blood. This is all very individually.
Disconnect from their emotions and consider the situation in which turned out impartially. Stop looking for pity from these people. They will not spare you. At best they will tell you what you want to hear, that you remained until they again get hungry. Also stop feeling sorry for yourself. It will not help you. Better think why you become food for these people? Them that attracted you? What are your weakness allowed you to be with such people? You were ready to forgive and why you didn't appreciate? What blind eye? Trampled do you evil, vile, lying about other people and why? What illusion pictured and why did you do it? Was hoping after the first of the strange situations? With whom can get along until you find the exit? Stop respond emotionally to manipulators. They let you will become indifferent. Learn intellectually despise such people. Let they suffer. If you decide to strip them of their essence, do so not as a victim and as executioner. With tears in his eyes and resentment in his voice, as is true with cold indifference. And definitely look for the exit.
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