First, a small digression. Most psychologists that I know, cover your life in front of customers an impenetrable fog. And for good reason. Some clients are not ready to "see" your therapist an ordinary man, whom he is. They need to first create a majestic image, because then more confidence that he will help them. In their view, the therapist plays the role of a certain Avatar or Savior, crystal clear and wise. However, in the process of therapy, this illusion is destroyed.
Sometimes literate retreat to tell about yourself, your experience may increase confidence in the therapist and be terapeutyczny. Many hypnotherapists use metaphors in the work. And the case of the life of the therapist is also a good metaphor and has a positive impact if it is presented at the right time in the right place.
In this article I want to talk about your personal case, which can be a healing metaphor to be a useful part of the theory and technology. If You are a psychologist, you can surely take this case to work with private clients. If You are a client or someone who is just passionate about psychology, I hope this article will provide You beneficial effects.
Once, when I was alone at home, being already sufficiently for adults, I was up late, obsessing over reading a book on psychology, I think it was "Psychotherapy new solution" by Robert and Mary Goulding. I looked at the clock – it was about 3 o'clock after midnight, felt like I was sleepy, I turned off the light and prepared to dive deeply into the sweet bliss of sleep.... However... as soon as the lights went out... I suddenly felt a growing anxiety, as if I was transported into the plot of a horror movie like "Nightmare on elm street". These scenes of waiting in the darkness when you don't know where he can jump, he panicked at me when I was a teenager. Now I was 26, and yet this irrational fear owned me and there was nothing I could do about it, feeling his own helplessness. The terrible fear that the darkness may someone come out and take me with you. I said to myself, "Sergei, you adult man, what is this kindergarten?!"... no words of mind, mantras, prayers – didn't work. This condition is helpless, terrified child, like a cocoon, engulfed me entirely, permeated me through and through. I got up with a jerk and got to the switch... my God... what a relief... when the light again was burning, everything stopped... So I fell asleep in the morning.
I thought it was an isolated episode and did not betray him strong values.... And all again... just stay single, just turned off the lights... again the horror from which it is impossible to hide... as children we hide under the blanket, knowing that it will save from the monsters... in adult life, I admit, does not work.
in Addition to the cases, the real fear of the dark, I still saw a few nightmares with a similar story, only I couldn't turn on the light switch wasn't working... the Fear followed me everywhere.
And that's when I realized that something in me needs understanding. And run – it is useless.
I went in several ways (and, if you want, I used several "keys") to understand your fear and turn it into a resource. Here notice: to deal with fear like the ring – it's like oil on the fire pour – it only becomes stronger. Is also true for other obsessive-compulsive disorder. Therefore, I stress again: I wanted to understand the fear and turn it into a resource.
the First thing I did was write a few poems on this theme, reinforcing the story with images, metaphors, as they say – have given vent to imagination. And set aside. All art reflects the processes of the subconscious, and to Express them through painting, poetry – it is possible to answer and create domestic jobs. It is desirable in his work to reflect their feelings and pretend to be a good decision in the end. My poem appeared a "He", with the dips instead of eyes full of bitterness. He sat on the edge of my bed and looked at me, he was looking for me everywhere.
(One of the poems leave here, it also has terapeutico structure. https://www.stihi.ru/2017/06/04/10429 ).
Then, being already familiar with the work with his own subconscious, I, in the course of immersion in a trance, asked the question: "What underlying motive is behind my fear of the dark?".
That same night I suddenly woke up... I felt a growing anxiety, shortness of breath, and palpitations – fear again "came" to me... and after 10 minutes came the realization that struck me like a bolt: I'm scared of the dark outside... this darkness inside of me. And she wanted to contact me she felt a longing for me. Many psychologists are familiar with the concept of "Shadow" introduced by Jung. It was a manifestation of the Shadow, i.e., that in me, that I was rejected and hidden from awareness. I realized that I'm afraid of myself – of its own aggression. At this point, fear completely gone. The realization was painful, however, it was the first step to what later I was able to integrate the material that was in the Shade and caused fear.
When I worked with him, we realised that everything is quite logical: while I like co-existed two people – one was aggressive, and the second was afraid of him. And I identified myself with the second. And then he projected the image of the internal aggressor in the external environment. Born a fear of the dark.
the aggression was the longing for the father I never knew, it was my method (to be aggressive), to feel a man, feel the connection with my father... and then came another milestone in the healing process, in the process of growth that brought me resources for a healthy separation from mother and the integration of healthy adult masculinity.
As mentioned in the TV series "twin Peaks", "the Owls are not what they seem". It happens in the development process. Our subconscious creates for us a good metaphorical puzzles that help us to heal, to move forward, to realize the value of what we have. And it is very important to listen to these signs, because here is the rule: if you ignore the signals of the subconscious, it reinforces the momentum, it will intensify them until, until you realize their importance and what they bring with them.
black visible bright colors. In the darkness we see the light brighter.... And... I think that You understand me, because a part of You, listening to me, even if You were in a dream. This part uses my story in the best way for You is that You really need.
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