Love, perhaps the most important thing in a person's life. Everyone wants to be loved. There are many people who want to love. There are those who all his life looking forward with love, and there are those who often fall in love. Someone one love happiness for life, and someone love, suffering a lifetime. The question of what love is and remains open. Relying on some foreign research present a selection of information about love and relationships, which everyone should know.
for Example, that falling in love takes one-fifth of a second.
To chemicals in our brains, it turns out, requires only one-fifth of a second, to let a person feel euphoria at the sight of another person. Scientists suggest that when the feeling of love involved twelve different areas of the brain. When we look at a person, these areas are literally produced in the brain is a cocktail of neurotransmitters, including oxytocin and adrenaline. The brain receives powerful love "blow", to resist which, it is almost impossible.
Or about the fact that the human brain is the so-called "map of love and desire".
Scientists believe that there is a difference between love and sexual desire. According to some studies, love can be at boosting sexual desire, and without it. The feeling of love is at the top of the chain of brain impulses, so-called the striatum (corpus striatum), or the striatum, located in the anterior brain, and is responsible for a great many functions. Activation of certain areas of the brain evokes such strong emotions and motivations and thoughts, usually about him, his favorite.
About the impact that have the kissing on the choice of a partner.
Recently, studies abroad, one of the authors of which are Professor Robin Dunbar showed that apart from sexuality, namely, kisses help us to choose and keep a partner. The survey involved women who appreciate kissing as an important part of the "testing" of a new partner. Studies have found a correlation between the number of kisses and quality. But, a similar relationship between number of sex and relationship improvement was not seen.
what couples who have been together 25 years, become similar to each other.
the couple often become similar to each other, this is because people, who have lived together for a long time develop similar personality traits, are similar even their faces, due to the fact that they live in the same environment, eat the same, for many years empathize each other.
That, contrary to popular belief, long-distance relationships can be strong.
If the couple have maintained constant communication by phone, Skype or others the technical means of modern communication.
If a couple tells each other intimate information about yourself.
If the partners have a more idealized view of each other.
If the couple have equal levels of satisfaction and stability in relationships, such relationships, even at a distance, can be strong, as those who are geographically close to each other.
there are four things that kill relationships.
the American psychologist John Gottman working in the field of studies of marital relations, his work in demand in Russia, for forty years, examines the psychology of love. He identifies four things that kill relationships:
the First is criticism in the relationship.
of Course, we all, from time to time criticize each other, but there is aggressive criticism, which is destructive in relationships. In pairs, where there is such criticism, the couple is divorced, on average, after six years of marriage. Frequent criticisms that affect personality, I can say that your relationship is coming to an end.
the Second is a recurring expression of contempt. br>contempt for the partner, one of the main reasons that ruins relationships and is a frequent reason for divorce. Contempt can involve sarcasm, the transition to the individual. Contempt makes the other person worthless in the eyes of the partner. A feeling of contempt often causes psychosomatic problems in both partners. Oddly enough, both people in a couple often have colds.
Third, the different ways of protection. br>People, too enclosed, protecting your space, automatically protecting everything regarding his life, defending even when no one is attacking, is inclined to excuse their mistakes and failures, but vigilantly monitors the mistakes of another person, as it were, gaining points at the expense of their partner. This can be a signal that the relationship is close to destruction.
Fourth is the so-called obstruction.
Obstruction (from the Latin. obstructio "obstacle") is anti – normal operation, in this case of couple relationships. One or both spouses, as would the bridges and break the connection with each other. While chatting they have no calls for partnership. Obstruction is often the result of a long period of criticism in the relationship, as well as contempt and of protection from each other. In the beginning, it may seem the only way out of deteriorating, every day relationships, but the lack of communication between partners, only aggravates the situation and does not solve the problem.
Modern marriage in recent decades has changed fundamentally, changed the people themselves. One of the studies and the author, Eli Finkel, says that nowadays, people have become more to want psychological comfort in the marriage, whereas before, to the forefront out security and status.
Modern partners want to have more opportunities for self-realization. To achieve its goals takes a lot of time and expended a lot of energy, this affects the marriage relationship. Partners do not devote sufficient time to the family and each other. If we want our relationship developed and strengthened, must be given a reasonable amount of time, and if not, then the alternative may be, reducing their expectations from marriage, to avoid disappointment.
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