“He's constantly jealous of me.” “I think he just hates me.” ”I have the feeling that he wants to insult me or say something bad.” I know exactly what he needs.” I know what he's up to”.
We are sure that you possess the objective knowledge about what man thinks about us what he's up to, what motivates, what he wants and how to lead.
What is this confidence that is the secret knowledge about the depths the identity of another person?
to understand this question, we have to go back in time.
usually in childhood, when our immature I rather selectively refers to those personal qualities that should be exercised. Unsafe for a child, is objectionable to the parent values and attitudes (which we certainly assimilate) aspects of personality are displaced. Our I learn not to show and not notice them in yourself. For example, a feeling of envy of some is totally unacceptable, shameful, shameful. Such a person will never allow myself to feel envy, he will constantly remind himself what a terrible feeling, a man will speak of themselves as not knowledgeable of envy. However, we can't just take and give up some part of yourself, even if it seems unpleasant to us. And if our I replacing something, the unconscious eventually finds a way to show us that we refuse to see in myself. We are beginning to see this quality in others. And not just to watch but also very emotional to treat this. Then friends and relatives will be envious, it will be particularly stressed, and it will cause severe irritation and anger. This phenomenon is called projection.
Plato, in his famous treatise, the State is the myth of the cave in which he metaphorically explains his theory about ideas. The prisoners chained to the cave wall can only observe the shadows of objects that are carrying behind their backs. Thus the observer is unable to see the real thing and are forced to settle for only its shadow projection.
This metaphor in my opinion is well suited for describing and the phenomenon of projection in psychology. Our consciousness is a prisoner, turned away from some parts of our personality, and now these parts are illuminated with the light of awareness, cast shadows on the surface of the cave. These shadows of our “things” we often see in the surrounding people, events and sometimes even items.
We project not only negative qualities, but something positive, for example, our desires, and we are actively forcing their children to do what once themselves wanted to do. We can project fears, and then we are afraid that our friends or acquaintances going to happen something terrible, and it does not give us peace even when the objective danger for them there.
Projection complicate our relationship with others. But at the same time, they allow our consciousness to see the dissociated part of the personality that you want to regain.
What to do with projections? To begin to learn how to track them. This time-consuming work, which involves awareness of their feelings, sensations and thoughts, the action is not “automatic” in the usual pattern, but deliberately and in accordance with the situation.
This is questioning yourself: On what grounds I judge this man? Why I now do so, and not otherwise? What motivates me? Whether this man thinks and feels like me, or if I concentrate, I find these feelings and thoughts?
With these issues and begin the path to a more conscious life.
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