the Relationship is complicated, and those who believe that it is something from God this - like, if there is, nicely, not - sad, he is deeply mistaken.
the Relationship should be build, to create, as we constructed the building and the climate it is necessary to arrange.
of Course, it's nice and good to live in a favorable climate, when it is itself a... However, it happens very rarely, and there is always flowing and changing.
Remember? - "prepare sleighs in summer, and cart in winter", ie not only do you need to attend to, to prepare something that it is, and even in advance to try to!
So, if you want to live in harmony, but in the world, let's start with the simple, and small. And there and will clear up!
so, building a relationship.
the secret of the first -
"That wisely a life to live, ought to know a lot,
Two important rules to remember the beginning:
You better starve than horrible there,
And better be alone than with just anyone."
Omar Khayyam
well, this wise commandment fulfilled, met, and love his optional, free choice-that in itself is a feat - no one there now not captive, though not taught this wisdom of the election, except that - "Trust in your sense, your heart will tell you!"
But let's start other verses to study.
A meeting, it is very important to be able not to miss.
After all, why divorces happen? Do people entering into a marriage, intend to leave? Of course not!
Entering into a marriage, keep eyes wide open, Madeleine de, Scuderi, choosing the satellite for a long time, often "to the grave".
But the truth is forget the second part of her good fortune in love - "keep your eyes half closed after".
However, maybe it can be had with half-closed eyes, to live in the past century, but now it is nonsense. Today we are focused on mutual closeness, trust each other, mutual love and affection, understanding and support, deep intimacy, i.e. that the key here?
Right - reciprocity and intimacy.
Because we need something else. We need still eyes wide open and the "Courage to Be" Dating Anacostia.
Faced with Anacostia in the Other, we often get lost - "What are we doing together?!, if we are so different, we have different interests, we have different values, a different social circle, characters, views on life, family and parenting, sex..."
Yes, there are, we are frightened with terrible force and involuntary begins to reverse course before it's too late to have time to take revenge! Of course, quick to leave and to have time to enter into a new relationship, the time is coming, the clock is ticking "tick..."
"...no regrets, just love
Tick-tock, tick-tock..."
But there is an ambush - all repeats
"I remember his mistake...
I'll drink to fail
And will become a very important
I was wrong twice..."
What if we were still important, and we wish the best of luck and love and reciprocity and intimacy!?
that's right - meeting, a very important to be able not to miss, with all the desire to move back, in spite of it.
But the silent, clenching his jaw to creak teeth, too, lisee.
it is Important to know how to be close, to be able to build a relationship.
the secret of the second
the basis of the relationship is the exchange. And it needs to be balanced!
ie, if we wish to receive gifts, will have to learn to give them. The experience of its parent families can be, both good and leaves much to be desired. If so, it is always possible - what?
Right - learn something new!
For this just want to a little to try to, we all came into this world, little knowing how, but I have learned! So here, learn, work hard and - what?
Right - wins! :)
Then roll up your sleeves, Yes the aprons will fix that... and start to exchange learning.
so that the partner could do for the partner and mutually? And that each was important to receive in this relationship?
your spouse could do for a wife?
What the spouse would have been important that she did for him?
That the wife could do for his "suprunivka"?
What wife would be important that the husband did for her?
Offer to take the piece of paper and dividing it in half, with each column to write down everything that comes to mind. And not only which came first, and think about it also need.
Work separately and when both are finished, compare their lists and add to his column "What am I going to do for your partner" what's easy for you to agree from the list of partner that it would be important that the other did for him.
And that, that other important, but for you it is difficult to decide to do, leave yourself a note - "to think", okay?
each Take on himself a voluntary commitment to do to partner with your agreed list of every day (several times a day) regardless of whether the other something in response or something lingers.
Learn to experience the joy of making gifts, the more they - what?
True - they welcome you as their agreed to your preference!
If you do not palter and honestly, openly expressed their desires, and there is a chance to find their satisfaction!
It's your continuing commitment, it's about your stability, and not about the variability of the weather around, you know?
But from the wish list, about what you have learned from this exercise that you take note of that, you can pamper your partner making a surprise for him.
But remember - these are your GIFTS to each other.
For what? Yes, just like that! Imagine the joy, people surprisingly!
And another important point - the more candid you are, the more secret desires will bring in the coveted list, the greater depth your experience of pleasure and even of happiness when receiving this GIFT from their partner, and to give in this case garazno interesting!
Recommend not to rush the message to each other their deepest, intimate secrets, start with simple, small joys of life, and prolong, complicate them as development - i.e., the movement goes from simple to complex, from small to large, from superficial to deep, from the lowest to the horn.
note - if you make something complicated, you need to specifically describe how it will be implemented, under what conditions, how, how often, in what place...
This kind of "instruction manual" - the more precisely described, the more precise can be executed :)
Well, complex things leave each other time on the formation of skills and additional training on their part. Support each other.
Enjoy :)
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