In addition to the previous article, which discussed techniques for individual work with codependency, I would like to add methods that can help in group work.
Method of "ignoring the Ban on"
One of the manifestations of codependency is reflected in ignoring the situation, yourself or others. If a person ignores their needs and emotions, you are fundamentally ignoring can be the parent of the installation don't be, as they announced in transactional analysis.
Another reason for the neglect may be psychological protection. Also other variants are possible scenarios by which one or the other, people prefer to ignore reality.
the Essence of the method is to ask the group each time when you ignore yourself, others or the situation to counteract this behavior. Again, it should ask the group not to show a strong persistence in such opposition and to stop trying to counter, if you ask the group about it, saying that now is not ready to abandon the old model. br>
the Method of "How do I save others"
Examine the situation when you start to "save" others and learn to recognize these situations. Also learn to recognize the situations when others start to save you. Discuss it within the group.
Method "Need to be a victim."
the Next aspect in the study of which can have a wonderful help group is the need to be a victim. Similarly, learn to recognize these situations themselves. And ask the group to point out a situation when you Express the need to be a victim. Ask the group directly to ask you "what do you want?"
the Method of "Mother and father in the group"
Who are the members of the group, most of the behavior is similar to your father and mother? What difficulties this causes in communication in the group? Discuss it within the group
Method to "Cast conflicts"
If last happened to any conflict situation, then you can ask a group to act out the situation, and themselves to stay in the role of Director. Playing a conflict situation helps to understand the unconscious side of their behavior in the conflict.
Method of the "Very strong reaction"
Learn to recognize moments in the group when the strength of your emotional reaction was too strong and not appropriate to the situation.
the Method of "Return to the past"
Learn to recognize such moments in communication, when you begin to feel like stepping back in time and now play a situation that happened to you before.
the Method of "Brainstorming"
This classic method of brainstorming can also be very useful in the group. Ask one of the team members to describe the situation and together swipe brainstorm. Try not to criticize what they offer other members.
Method of the "Love couch"
Shrink one of the band members on the couch or on a chair, and all the rest start to praise this participant and give positive feedback.
Technique for a group of "I should"
Step 1. Together with a partner, make a list of statements that begin with "I should..."
You create your list, and your partner makes your list.
Step 2. Then sit opposite a partner and practice speaking each item in your list. Partner on your every statement meets "Thank you!"
Step 3. Take your list and the words "I should" replace the statement "I choose..."
Step 4. Now tell your feelings to the partner. Do you have awareness of how your "should I" limit you?
Step 5. Ask yourself: "why should you do it?" Do you have a need to please the other?
Step 6. Ask yourself: "Can I not do that?"
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