it Happens in therapy, people come in with a very difficult parent-child relationship experience in history. Such cases require special study, so as to leave in the minds of customers bleeding, unhealed mark, breaking the future scenario of life... In this regard, the coupe is large, the system works I offer for your consideration the following - the author's technique by analysis, understanding and elaboration of internal conflict with a parent.
My strategy consists of five sequential steps and is divided into several, United by a common work sessions.
How is that?!... Before the client raises the chair. This chair is the virtual personality of its parent, with which we begin a long and detailed conversation about everything that seems important to the client and significant in the conflict "parent-child". Relevant here:
- the expression of anger at the figure of the parent;
- pronunciation of strain (experienced by the client) positions in the structure of parent-child;
- wypracowanie accumulated in the childhood of bitterness;
- the expression accumulated despair about the life of the customer "is under-loved, hurt child";
is the acting out of children's resentment.
All it takes is enough time and requires the involvement of a therapist.
it is Worth noting that both roles in the session are animated, to get active, live conversation. The role of "parent" or implemented by the client, or the assistant therapist.
If necessary, the first phase can be stretched to five stretched out at the time of sub-steps, in other words, five Autonomous meetings.
With all the complexity of existing psychotherapeutic situation, it is necessary, however, to find, to isolate and understand the positive meaning of this event material for passing the therapy client.
as rough as I was pained our experience, it is certainly something we are taught. Perhaps, firmness or courage. Maybe distinctiveness to distinguish "good" from "bad." Perhaps the wisdom and depth of perception of life.
At this stage, also important is the involvement of a therapist-psychologist.
In difficult relationship situations, the child inspired a lot of harmful prescriptions:
"You are bad";
"You're grounded";
"You have no right";
"You got";
- "you fail" and so on...
All such regulations should be withdrawn and disconnected from yourself. Replacing protivopolozhnye:
"I am good";
- "I am worthy";
- "I Have rights";
"I don't have anyone except God (the God within himself, his conscience)";
- "I will succeed" and so on...
At this stage, as in all the previous therapist-a psychologist has a special role in assisting a client in the collection and correct replacement of crucial negative requirements to positive, constructive and resource.
At this stage, despite the obvious conflict of the relationship "parent-child" and the accumulated burden of mutual grievances-complaints, the client, with the help of psychologist, alternately, positional roles "parent" and "child" verbal declares (role role) best wishes for the future to further separate the virtual "parent" and "child", thus, in fact by phase of forgiveness and farewell. Quality phase of this strategy removes the negative energy charge from the field, parent-child, separating them from each other without any "karmic" damage. The essence of the blessed Epistles is that two very similar, but entangled in their relationship, this moment begin to affect each other's destinies in the most positive way through mutual blessing for success. Only forgiving someone, we are able to internally say goodbye to him. (Notice the root similarity of these two words: "forgiveness" and "goodbye".)
In this phase, after completing all prior necessary, consecutive steps, we unfasten ourselves from the umbilical cord of a parent. Now we are two equal units that exist on a stand, renovieren level.
you Can virtually imagine a new birth of the customer – now in an adult, psychologically separate from the parent, Autonomous life, with the separation from the parental umbilical cord.
Here, as in all the previous steps, the extremely important role of professional assistant psychologist who helps the client efficiently pass through initiation offices, with the entry into a new, Autonomous reality.
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I Hope that phase of my strategy is spelled out quite clearly and is ready for implementation in all necessary cases. And I, the author of this strategy, a professional psychologist Blishchenko Alena Viktorovna, bid you farewell with best wishes, possible only in the case of consideration of all our internal and external conflicts.
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