Many of you have heard, and possibly used appliances NLP.
to Explain what it is, and what it eats, long and boring (you can dig deeper in the Internet), but based on this technique, many experts implement their technique(basically, it is a combination of standard techniques), and that I am no exception. So, we will focus on a slightly modified technique of "Stroke".
Very often, people suffering from misunderstanding from other people, wrong behavior (which they think is correct), actually just have a certain program a standard of conduct, which was adopted (can say read) on the part of parents , usually in childhood. And to break this pattern , even if you saw it, it is hard not only for themselves, but with the help of a specialist.
This technique I have called"Brushstrokes in the painting," the easier it will be to disassemble a specific example:
a Woman in his childhood, constantly watched as the father looked around mother, and the power over the whole family, both materially and psychologically (and possibly physically) , grandfather arrives just as well, drinks and rows with grandma - please note that to the child (our heroine) they (father and grandfather) are good enough, do not cry, do not touch. A woman started a family, they had a child, and the conflicts began , the quarrels , accusations , distrust , tantrums, etc. In this situation, of course, blame not only she , but let's talk about it : it is implicitly awarded her husband standard (her friend) demeanor , she was constantly trying to find flaws in it , checked their fears, which led to scandals (please note that she was doing this unconsciously!), tried to instill in him his familiar system behavior. Conclusion: Her pattern(which she was clear, and the other she didn't know) always ask for confirmation , at the same time, her inner prejudice against the male sex, did not allow her to see and accept that her husband is not like her father and grandfather, and even after the baby is born, it has not changed for the worse. The situation is clear? Then we move on to techniques that will help to break this stereotyped behavior.
First of all, I ask the client to sit comfortably is to sit or lie down (like I said, you can do that yourself).
Part one: the Association.
Ask the client to calm down and relax. In the head we can start to draw a picture (so I know what happened, I verbal to help finish it). The first picture is what we have at the moment (let's call the picture wrong) , in our case, draw a dad in the home (then a child familiar) surroundings , for example he stands with an aggressive face, and holding a club in front of him, next to grandpa, too aggressive with a bottle of vodka, disheveled, slovenly, opposite mother and grandmother huddled in a corner protected and cry , the same child that they guard (female youth)- the picture should be the most drawn, the more objects, the better ( it may include other characters - brother, sister, aunt, etc.).
remember Well the picture and save it aside. Begin to draw the other ( let's call it positive), which shows not the past but the present, in a good light. For example, beautiful well maintained home, a husband who plays with the child or help, from the soul, the household , the wife(the woman) smiling and quietly on the veranda reading a book , the child is calm, and something enthusiastically busy, dog, cat, etc idyll client, in fact, would like to see.
After drawing we ask you to imagine that negative picture at the beginning of a very close and positive somewhere very far away and barely noticeable. Give the client the time and say that when any sound ( I use bell) it is necessary to change the pattern reversed : positive forward, negative back. Looking at everything in new ways, and another call - swap, but this positive picture became a little closer the next time again, closer, and then negative, etc. Change pictures need somewhere between 10 and 15, while the negative is not removed, and positive, even when you uninstall will become negative ahead of the picture. Then, stop the first part of the session.
Part two : the Strokes or drawing.
Pictures are the same, only need to imagine a positive picture - translucent, and we through it looking at the negative . Negative gradually begins to change is in the hands of the Pope, the flowers appear, grandpa gift , changing faces , the situation, and gradually, the positive picture there are characters with bad pictures, but they are doing normal chores , their faces happy, all is well . You can get these pictures to talk, and take action based on the fact that their nature has changed and they are more good, and there are no victims, not the aggressors. Gradually bad the picture is erased and disappears, there is only good.
This study with a professional takes about 10 -15 minutes. Usually takes 3 to 10 sessions. Over time the perception will change, the old pattern erased and replaced by a new one. At the end of the session, you can ask the client to say what, who makes as he to whom belongs (of the characters), it is possible to understand what or who else will akarit (not worked), and work separately.
This technique is certainly not a panacea , but in my experience it's worked repeatedly. I hope the article was useful for you. Sincerely Basketin Eugene.
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