So, most often from my clients, and colleagues-psychologists, including me, are rarely an exception!
But if such exceptions are found, they only prove the rule! Yesterday I unusually responded to the delegation of Arkhangelsk.
Mother, daughter and Wintermother is the most important character of our lives, whether we like it or not!
I Usually allocate two directions of work
- the Client is not separated (not separated) from mom and considers her words true in your instance.
- the Client blames the mother for everything bad in your life.
How to work with it?
In the case disconnect a customer's identity from "mother's umbilical cord," or to give an invocation on growing up. No matter how old the client is 20 or 55 ?
In the second case to show that he (a) has a mother and commonalities that doesn't want to accept.
read More about this phenomenon read in publications:
What we people annoying in itself and reflects! ExerciseTell me who you hate and I'll tell you who you are?
At the initial stage of diagnosis works well phototherapy
- Ask the client to send if you're working in Skype, or bring to the office his picture and a picture of his mom
- Create the plates, as shown, which are laid out on the table or fill the online app
- Ask the customer to answer questions about, such as shown, although they can me, depending on situation
If You can't see it on my screenshot, give an example of possible issues, adding to them additional:
my mom and I shared in the exterior?
how we differ in appearance?
- That my mom shared patterns (repeatable behaviour)?
- we are different (act differently)?
- What prevents me to get closer to mom?
- what is the cause of my child's attachment to mother?
- Why do I still live with my mom, while I ...?
- what is the benefit of my position?
- What hinders me to be independent?
- What should I do to improve your relationship with your mother?
- That will help me do that?
- What will be my concrete step towards the mom?
P.S. With this exercise, I worked through and your relationship with your mother. Me and my help. Hopefully that will be useful to You.
Read more on the subject of relations with parents still:
How to restore the interrupted movement of love toward the mother? MethodsHow the relationship with dad affects life success daughter? Techniqueimpact on the destiny of man ethnic weave in his family system?!
