When we hear the word "loneliness", as a rule, the first thing that comes to mind - it's bad, sad, want to climb the wall, "howl at the moon" etc.... br>
meanwhile, all is not as straightforward as it might seem! Loneliness is different!
Solitude No. 1 - meaning "loneliness". This negative and very common interpretation.
Loneliness No. 2 - which can be described with the word "privacy". Ie - positive and creative option.
curiously, if we look at English, we see that these two concepts are inextricably linked. Like two sides of the same coin. And here's why:
ie., one state may go into another and Vice versa. It all depends on our attitude to the situation and its perception. br>Solitude-loneliness seems to many sheer torture. As said, one of my client, she after work, trying not be the last to go home, because there lonely and empty, and that it oppresses and stifles. So it is late or at work, or late night riding in a car in the city.
unfortunately, it happens quite often. And the feeling, of course, so-so... this is largely due to the fact that a person uncomfortable first of all, with yourself. After all, being alone, we're alone with their thoughts, problems, etc.
Here it would be good reflection on why with yourself so bad that in life "not" that causes a person to flee from himself. br>
At the same time, solitude-solitude means the creative moment. A kind of option to "reset and recharge". Ie, coming home after work and staying alone, man does not suffer, but on the contrary, relaxes and gains strength. Someone is meditating, someone is engaged in self-improvement or creativity. The mass of options.
In this context I like the statement:
"If we don't teach children to be alone with him, they will experience only the lonely". (Sherry Turkle)the Key distinction between these two concepts. Quite often people confuse one with the other, and, without even thinking about the positive value of solitude (= privacy), label it a negative label. They say, loneliness is bad, wrong... Yeah,right, but again - it depends on solitude to keep in mind. And really not all that bad!
Stay in the privacy can learn. No matter who it is - parents, friends, psychologist/psychotherapist. The main thing - the understanding that loneliness is solitude carries a powerful charge of creative energy. And, if the right to manage, it will make a huge difference.
And also, it is possible to cope with loneliness-loneliness! However, here I would recommend to immediately contact the professionals. Because of the notorious "hanging out with girlfriend/friend", as a rule, do not solve the problem but only temporarily it easier or remove the background. br>
No offense to those who are used to sharing problems with friends/friends, but (!) is a psychologist/psychotherapist can help, first, learn to recognize your emotions behind them and the requirements to manage them. Second, to find internal resources and the most optimal (and any particular person) the way to turn loneliness into solitude. And third, to show the solutions to the problem of loneliness (and, as a result - improved quality of life), denoting not only the solution but also the possible difficulties + how to overcome them.
Remember, you're alone. And bomost of the life you spend it alone. So does this make the pastime as comfortable as possible and very memorable!
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