to Live the way you want is the love of self and selfishness - is when other people have to think and live the way you want. - Liz Burbo
Everyone is free to do as the heart feels, regardless of what you expect from other people.
Every case and the choice people make for themselves. What they are like. For example, you can prove yourself as an honest and helping others, or as cunning and dishonest. And held accountable, one way or another, be the same man. Other people will be near it just to Express and create what They are. So, do we have the right to expect from people that they will behave as we want and negatively react if our expectations are not met? Because each person has his own desires and soul purpose about what he wants to be and how to show themselves. And each occurs with the consequence that he created.
Actions against other people can be the same, but you can make them by different motives. Not for others, but for the sake of expression itself, of creation in the life of what man is. For example, to cook a delicious dinner is not for another person, but simply because I want to Express myself as a caring and loving, for the sake of creation itself and expressing the experience of his love. And from this change in motivation, there is a big difference. You receive freedom from the expectations of something in return. Often, people are making through the power of something else, then expect the same choice of the person in response, even though nobody forced them to do so. They made such a choice, but then still can feel the resentment from their unrealistic expectations and assume that those responsible for their emotions the other person.
as the example is women's choice to come home from work and do the most housework, overcoming fatigue and need for rest, perform heroic selfless deeds, and then expect the same in return. But when from time to time the same level of enthusiasm at times selfless act from a partner are not met, there is frustration and resentment that "even a light bulb immediately change can not, it is a trifle compared to how much I do for him". And whether it's actually another person, if he really loves in order for him to have acted to the detriment of themselves, "samootverzhenno"? Never asked him if that's what he wanted really. If a person loves, the more likely he would choose to see next happy coming into harmony and love to your soul and health of a person. And being free of expectations and pressure from the partner, is ready to jointly seek a way out of the situation, that all was well. But mutual misunderstanding, the accumulating pressure from the waiting and the growing negative response, the partner starts to want to do less and less. After all, do not leave him freedom of choice, assuming that he is also obliged to do the same in return.
One of the ways to solve can be harmony between love of self and others, attention to the desires and purposes of his soul, taking responsibility for your happiness on yourself rather than shifting to another person. Nobody can make a person happy, but himself.
When expressing himself as he wants the soul in this mutual freedom can be created close and facilitate the mutual development of relationships, in which each expresses themselves to Those Who really wants to be. Then one can show love towards each other in the moment, not because he expect it and it "should" do, but because he really wants to demonstrate himself in this moment, to Express the experience of what it is.
to Feel that person wants the soul is to listen to not only the mind, which sometimes is guided by fears based on past experience, not only the body, with its habits, that warm anxious feeling in her chest that sensitively tells how to actually want to act in love towards yourself and others. You can ask yourself the question and feel: "How did "love"?".
Sometimes it takes a while to learn how to feel, and this feeling became clearer, as many a child used to do, not paying attention to him. But the more one listens to her and begins to do what you really want deep down, not what I expect from him, the more is in "his" place for the soul, in a harmonious relationship with yourself and others, and doing things for the benefit of itself and the world.
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