what is the secret to a happy family? Them, these secrets, of course several. However, one of the main secrets of a happy family is the secret of communication.
happy families trust each other, tell those things that sometimes it hurts to tell that don't always make the man. In poor families, the candor is not encouraged, as it leads to a "punch in the stomach".
In a happy family more discuss the problems and think about how to solve them. In accidents more criticism, but if one of the spouses expresses the opinion, that it begins to criticize.
happy families forgive each other is not always beautiful behavior. In families where there is no trust and understanding, not made the same and forgive each other. I often remember the mistakes of another for many years and even decades, and even if not saying aloud, I think to myself.
What to do in order to make the family happy? To have more trust and understanding? To begin with - start to communicate.
Turns to make his family happy, you have to put quite a bit of effort at least 5 times a week to all get together for dinner. And at the same time to turn off the TV!
you Need to implement a rule every evening for dinner, all the family members, especially children tell 2 stories - the most positive and most negative event of the day. Too hard? But it takes the conversation away from the banal "how-things-all-good." No need to ask questions that require the answer Yes or no, you need to build a conversation so that all are willing to Express themselves.
All happy families are happy alike
Another wrote Leo Tolstoy 120 years ago: all happy families are happy alike. And "sameness" in the following: all happy families have the tradition to gather in the evening for dinner to socialize. You can chat on any topic - to discuss the news events of the day, according to research by Miriam Weinstein (Miriam Weinstein), a psychologist and author of "the Surprising power of family meals" should occur no less than 5 times a week. And the TV dinner, better off! If you are absorbed to the TV show passions on the TV screen, talking "heart to heart" over dinner will never take place!
the benefits of a joint family dinners are huge. First, it helps children to master language. They, of course, it is necessary to read books, but they need to talk - and when to do it, as not during dinner! Second, these dinners provide a sense of family cohesion. Even if the dinner is discussed very unpleasant situation, the family remains confident that together we can overcome difficult times.
once again proven - happiness is not in money
happy families, there are other distinctive features. Interestingly, they are not linked with the economic status of the family or position in society, no religious or ethnic affiliation of family members.
in Addition to the cases related to caring for the children, the mother and father in a happy family definitely have their own Hobbies. For example, to go to play football with friends. And children will only benefit if they see that the parents refuse for them from their interests. Each member of a happy family in the house has its own area where you can be alone. And there is a place where the family traditionally gathers together - most often it is the kitchen.
In a happy family are very few hard and fast rules of conduct. And the smaller the better! In poor families, the rule is invented for any trifle.
Both parents in a happy family teach children personal examples. A personal example is contagious, and allows you to take responsibility. The main thing — to show children that we regularly have a reason to celebrate, therefore, we are moving in the right direction.
Well, of course, in a happy family like any other, not without conflict, but all family members are sure - no matter how strong the conflict might be, the family will not collapse!
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