self-Esteem is deeply absurd when you have to drop and clear perception of all that does not meet internal expectations about themselves, and to exaggerate and to retain in memory all the moments of success.
"If you get an f for bad behavior or a failed task, you should be ashamed"... Seemingly primitive way of manipulation, but unfortunately, in adult life he is deeply entrenched as a way of self-assessment, the method of fixation on a particular image. br>
First, internal sensations are "good" I am or "bad", it's a very primitive sense of satisfaction and compliance environment. But then it turns into the internal mechanism at certain inner expectations from himself. br>
These assessments, and self - esteem-is self-deception, which allows voluntarily to limit their choice of behaviour and to create an inner illusion that you're "good" or "bad". But this map is very superficial. If you realize that it is not necessary to meet a particular expectation from the outside, comes a feeling of liberation. When you go beyond the "good behavior", then get energy and pleasure. However, if you begin to realize the negative scenario, after a while the other pole begins to dominate and starts the internal conflict.
actually, the "good" and "bad" is often an illusion, artificially created criteria, the simplified map which is like the reference group, but does not correspond to inner reality. In nature there is good and bad, there are functional and non-functional, healthy and sick, alive and dead. Self-esteem is the desire to stop, to lock in an attractive way, but there's no real life, no energy.
self-Esteem - is often a confidence that match one of the expected stereotypes, correspond to labels and forms, which identify yourself.
What will happen if there will be no pride, no complacency, no self-esteem for past or present achievements, at the same time shame, feelings of discrepancy of the desired status? Remain the real feeling, the ease, the ability to change, the opportunity to meet an endless set of scenarios and experiences, the opportunity to develop their real values, look for their real needs, discover your true personality, to see the way deeper and full development.
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