the Child should be reflected through the parents. He learns to understand himself, to understand what it is, finding a response, starting from the sight, words, touch mom and dad.
And if that's what it is - parents do not like? Traits, appearance, behavior does not fit into his image-dream?
Then this "authenticity", look indifferent. Even the word "look" is not always suitable. Sometimes it (the child) just don't see. An empty space where there should be real features and lots of expectations, so desirable that it seems already tangible.
under this faith, the child adjusts and gets used to look at what he feels, experiences, wants, as to an empty space. br>
And then, in adulthood, under any circumstances, acquainted with the feeling of emptiness in the soul and even body. He can't give yourself something to assign. Screams, "AU" jangling in the space, and there is no echo. Satiety only from oversaturation. Need a strong emotion to be in the moment. Goals, aspirations - running, running, running. The best, most perfect, most welcome, most beautiful - in all spheres of life. This value is the next step, we should strive to do. Something is pushing to bring more order and perfect cleanliness (not necessarily to clean, it doesn't matter what). Serenity sucked into the swamp, it destroys and it is impossible to deal with. Euphoria in communication - an indication that the relationship took place, etc... the Symptoms are individual, so many of them, how many personal stories...
So you can live your whole life. Yes, really cross, so to get the hang of it, what with the longing and emptiness is almost not overlap. Possible side effect? Is. Environment, circumstances, people increasingly irritating. THEY are carriers and creators of the discomfort, the challenges, the loneliness. The world is becoming tougher, the world is somewhere rolls...
the Alternative is also there, and it is to stop, to admit the phenomenon, literally, "catch the tail" - how is this switch from boredom to retreating? And then a long process of examination. That did not happen in his childhood to do now. THERE IS NOT EMPTINESS. Accustomed to seeing the void, but there is not empty! There's a whole world. Huge, rich, colorful. Have to know the whole palette - gray and black color too (sadness, pain, disappointment, hatred, shame, contempt, anxiety, powerlessness, aggression), because they were once the main detectors and carried the bad, sad news. They had to disable (which is impossible, but that's another story), to adapt to the external standard. Hard work, but very rewarding!
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