In the last article I talked about the aggression. In this article I want to continue this topic, focusing more on the passive form. br>
What is passive (or indirect) aggression and how it is formed? br>
When a person is a child saying that to be angry is not (bad, impolite, ugly, etc.), he used his aggression to suppress. And yet, the anger, it is not going away, if not to live.
It "hides" in the body, and then emerges from it (from a man) with all sorts of "crooked ways". For example, through the violation of the agreements, the removal of deadlines, unfulfilled promises; through the "inadvertent actions" such as, for example: being late, interrupting, forgetfulness, etc, like accidentally forgetting about your most important for you request, then make an innocent face, it's not his fault, he forgot. Or gets stuck in traffic on the way to you and is late for 40 minutes for an appointment. Or occurs by chance on your foot. In words this can be expressed using different kinds of sarcastic, half-joking phrases, however, cutting is usually fairly painful. the
Man, which is very difficult with the manifestation of his anger, it is much easier to provoke you to anger. And I must admit, they are masterful at doing it. And then you can reproach you that you are so angry and intemperate. br>
Passive-aggressive, mainly composed of indirect messages, which are usually uttering puts additional meaning that can guess the source. br>
here are examples of phrases where you can hear indirect aggression:
"I never get angry"
"— And my boyfriend says I'm the most beautiful.
—Yes? Really? And my not lying to me"
"For blondes, you did good"
Passive-aggressive much more damaging than video.
Direct aggression can be focused on dialogue, on achieving consensus. And hidden aggression it's in the air, spoiling the mood of everybody and impacting negatively on relationships. br>
Author: Gestalt therapist, supervisor Borzova Olga (https://vk.com/id49740491 my group in VK https://vk.com/olga_psyholog)
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