If you look purely semantically (to-Verie, to believe, to believe), talking about trust, we're dealing with some kind of faith (or veroia). Ie, some subjective process where someone or something is endowed with certain properties (faith = the recognition of something true regardless of the justification from the wiki).
Further. Trust is a phenomenon of contact pair relationships. You can only trust someone or something.
thus the concept of up-Veria/to-be believed (as opposed to simply "faith") implies some interaction, a way to dispose of his faith, "give" her to anyone. To do this, there must be some criteria – who can you trust something, and who does not (of course they may be unconscious, but their very presence/absence in any case will affect whether a trust is formed or not).
it can be criteria? Somehow they are tied to theme 1-opportunities and abilities of self-disclosure, 2-meet your own expectations from each other and reality, 3 - sense of danger/safety.
Trust can arise where there is opportunity to open to engage and remain in relative safety, safety.
this capability is influenced by different factors. Knowledge of themselves (their values, preferences, qualities, opportunities and restrictions), the formation of personal boundaries, the ability and willingness to communicate with others (including to see the real Other, and not just my fantasies about him), degree of personal stability and development of domestic resources.
More on this process of course is affected by past experience. The memory of how someone trusted – and what came of it. Past experience can help to form trust and to let.
Obviously, once falling in a deep hole, people tend to expect the earth from under the feet can now leave even where the pits and there was not in sight. And because we have a tendency to adjust reality to fit their vision of it, the "experience trap" can result in a constant tendency to find themselves "pit" area, and then to dig it yourself.
and another line in this thread (which in fact follows from the previous) – about trust as the ability to rely on, to lean on the Other. Enough safe it can be when, first, it is possible to be strong enough by itself (then if the Other makes a step to the side, for us it becomes a collapse of all supports). Plus the ability to see the real Other (i.e., separating their fantasy ideas about a particular person that is opposite, based on past experiences of interaction with people in General –from what's really going on in our contact in real time with it).
Treated it all (the difficulty of building trust) study themselves (their beliefs, preferences, opportunities and constraints); postroeniem personal boundaries (what-who-and-when I want-can open and what is not); awareness, accommodation, and assimilation of past experience (to separate the past experience from the moment of the here-and-now), necessarily and exclusively in contact! (through training and constructive interaction with Others). And last, it is very important (but hardly possible without the preceding paragraphs): get a new experience when it is possible to trust (if such experience is missing or in short supply), i.e. when this process is quite safe and may even be enjoyable and nutritious, when it becomes both a condition and a result of approximation to Another, and the development of relations with him.
it Turns out that trust is largely about the ability to open in contact with Others to remain visible including their vulnerable sides, to interact and to feel safe.
Well, actually the study of these and other issues we continue to address the group on 'recovery from addiction/codependency' next Wednesday. It is possible to join (who are the actual topic of the subject*/codependency**). Wellcome.
what do you mean when you say "trust"?
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* chemical (alcoholism, drug abuse and so on. dependence on psychoactive substances) and chemical (gambling, Shopaholic, workaholism, overeating, and so on. uncontrollable behavior)
** emotional dependence (a condition specific to people living with a dependent person in the same territory, composed with him in kinship and/or just a relationship)
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