Friends, if you want to start to better understand loved ones, and to effectively communicate with others, then this article is for you.
So what "token muhlaevа" is the protection mechanism that is present in every person. Let's imagine that when two people start joining of the two granite slabs which represent the two logic or two different images of the world. When they match, the form in the ideal case the angle of 180 degrees, then when dealing with such a man we feel the joy of inspiration from full understanding, etc. But in real life this happens very rarely. So the reality of being all alone, but the reality is everyone has their own. And here is the interaction of these two plates occurs at a certain offset. This interaction clearly occurs in the negative emotional background. The basic sense of one of the parties will be hurt. This is due to the fact that each picture of the world has its own system of values. The greater the difference in the value system, the greater becomes the angle of displacement. Any statements or beliefs of people we compare with his picture of the world and if they don't match, then we perceive them as a threat to their system of values. And that would protect the person unconsciously seeks to undermine the logic of the opponent that the other person causes resentment. And such interaction is extremely inefficient and does not lead to constructive dialogue. How to fix it? First, always communicate in the language of the interlocutor, even if you have three degrees and you can quote by heart Henry Vonkleist, most likely you will be perceived as just a fan of get smart. Secondly, listen more and try to understand what actually you want to say to the other person. Remember, no one can destroy your values unless you do not allow it. You just need to understand that ultimately, everyone talks only about himself.
perhaps one day, suddenly when you feel a negative emotional color, think, perhaps earned by this mechanism. And this token gives you the opportunity to realize that you hurt the feelings of another and the other person just wants to protect you. And you at this point should just be a little bit sensitive and respect the values of another person. That will allow you to begin to build relationships on a deeper and trusting level.
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