What is fear and how it manifests itself in human life? What prevents and where to send? Why you need to look fear in the eye and learn from the experience? These and other questions we will consider in this article.
In the world there is the Higher power of love that cares and is sending into our lives at different things. As a result of that, in the human psyche is recorded behaviors as good and not so good, and some of them cause stress, anxiety and stress. If you encounter a problem situation, they manifest themselves in the form of aggression, feelings of guilt and uncertainty.
What happens when a person goes on about the fear?
♦ He is running from himself, from the lessons that life sends him. br>
♦ Desperate and disillusioned, he blames others and feels the desire to forget unpleasant situation. br>
is it Possible to change this process? Yeah, maybe. You need to start, observe yourself and be aware of her reactions. This will help you next "I don't go on about fear, but not reject it. I am aware of everything that is happening to me."
When a person has an emotional reaction to the situation: fear, aggression, guilt, insecurity, he is free to choose how to react to it.
There are 3 ways of resolving a problem situation
First way – submit and go on about emotional responses. It is the path of attachment. Attachment means that one is dependent on the source of pleasure. He wants that again, so again and again does it.
I remember he conducted a two-day program at one of the boarding house. On the second day, returning after morning walk from the sea, I asked myself: "do I Want to go for Breakfast?". Is, I do not like it, but I remembered yesterday's delicious dessert of fruit, drenched in banana sauce and sprinkled with pine nuts and thought: "what if it happens again?".
At this point I felt that I wanted to go to a cafe. The mood of affection was controlling me. When I came to the cafe and asked, "what do you have for Breakfast?". I said, "Soup and bread". It hit me like a slap in the face caused from two sides. I was disappointed, because I never eat in the morning soup and rolls.
If a person wants a repeat of the attachment in all the time will get a slap from life. The attachment is what deprives him of creativity and makes addicted. He does not understand reality, loses the user's life and sees no other choice.
Second way – so no one would know about what is happening, hides and locks the emotional response within yourself. He denies the lessons and challenges of his life.
On one training, after exercise, I asked participants to share their experiences. Stood a young man and said, "it's Amazing, but my whole life I have concealed the defect from himself. I was sure that I don't have them, but they were obvious to others."
If you have something to deny, something to resist it again and again will come in your life. If you don't want to experience emotions that they will constantly get in your way. The law of negation, as the pendulum swingsmood of a person to the side of the dislikes to the side of the attachment.
the Third way – the path of love or the way of the disciple. They should go the soul that came into the world. This path starts not with attachment, not with hostility, but with observation and acceptance.
Excerpt from the training program "Transforming limiting beliefs": "How to overcome your fears?"
- my name is Ivan. My limitation is the constant fear of making a mistake. I feel a lot of worry and uncontrollably wasting time. What to do with fear?
Ivan, I want to ask You to recall a disturbing fear. You feel it now?
- Yes.
- Okay, take it fully, and watch what happens to You.
- I feel like im very poisonous fear and the feeling that it could all be in vain.
- You did not obey him, do not deny it, not running away and not trying to push him back where he came from. You just observe it. How do You feel now?
- I Have a feeling that in life I can rely only on themselves.
Ivan, just describe what you feel when You see his fear?
Pain.
- Okay, just watch it. Where You have it located?
In heart.
- What is happening?
- a feeling that she is going from all parts of the body to the heart.
Watch it, don't get attached, don't deny it, and completely accept it. You have the process of adoption?
- Yes.
Ivan, I want to ask You, watching the fear, take it without any negative evaluation that it is something bad. Fear, as a teacher, teaches You something. Just contact him, be respectful, mentally pay respects, bring the bow. When You begin to treat it, what is changing?
- I Have a feeling that fear, as the glacier slowly began to melt.
Watch him. When You show him respect, what is happening to him?
- I Have a feeling that fear is the author, which I sent him. And if I realize what my lesson, I won't get back to it and go on.
- On the morning meditation we talked about the fact that everything that happens in the world comes from a Higher source, but in the life we deny it. For example, the fear that we don't like, we believe it is unnecessary. If our life comes to people, which causes concern, we think he's extra subject in God's creation and it should not be there.
In daily life, we always deny different events and usually they are repeated again. The path of liberation from fear starts with taking troubled feelings.
When man realizes what is happening, analyzes and contacting a troubled feeling, in his life there is a choice, an alternative that lead to positive changes.
We have heard many times that everything that happens in the world is the manifestation of the Supreme will. Working through Ivan and his troubled feeling, we philosophy translated into practical inner experience. Ivan took your own as the Supreme will of the teacher, who wishes him well. This begins the path of development of the student, and this is a very practical philosophy, described by sages in ancient texts.
don't go on about fears. Take responsibility in any problem situation, start to act differently. Acting consciously, you will to consolidate a new model of behavior. Human life is changing through the actions and depends on the path that he chooses.
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