Hyperactive child.
7 steps of problem solving.
Almost half of cases where children aged 5 to 10 years about so-called hyperactivity or ADHD (attention deficit disorder with hyperactivity). Why is it so called?
There is an hyperactivity with biological or organic substrate. It is characterized by weakness of the brake system, not a redundant activity. That is why in other countries are treated with psychostimulants.
So in the American TV series "Desperate Housewives" one of the heroines got hooked on medication prescribed for the child, and in perfect condition kept the house. Sedatives, therefore, are of little help, they make it more difficult for the brake system. Well that true hyperactivity is rare. the Lion's share of applicants, not less than 90% is behavioral disorders. the child has not formed self-control, understanding the boundaries of the permissible, the ability to plan their activities and perform actions according to the rules. A clear criterion to distinguish between behavioural disorders and organic nature of hyperactivity is a child's ability long-term to engage in a favorite activity on their own. Hyperactive child is not capable of such, he always can not control their movements. Behavioral problem characterized by the fact that there are long periods of purposeful activity. The child may long to watch TV, play computer games, even puzzles and complex constructors, but can't do the homework, ignored the pleas, can't sit still in class.
So we immediately dismantled the causes and symptoms to go to the problem.
If hyperactivity is true, will only doctor. It is necessary to harmonize the work of excitatory and inhibitory systems. Good that this pathology is rare. Again, if the child is capable of long time to do their favorite things, his problem is behavioral, not organic and You will be able to help your child without drugs.
7 steps to solve the problem of hyperactivity in children.
- Always refer to the child having eye contact or increasing the proximity touch. All parents complain that their child doesn't hear, ignores the request should be repeated several times. While shouting him the job from the other room as or similar requirements, not raising his eyes from the phone.
- Always tell your child the instructions, not ask questions. What do we mean? Do not ask: "why are toys scattered, the table is not removed, the lessons are not learned?" Don't waste your time and effort. After all, the kid will come up with answers to the question, but not to eliminate defects. Say, "Take your toys". Remember that the request should be spelled, establishing eye contact or touching the child.
- Let's have only one job and only one adult. If the mother will say, taught lessons, and dad to clean up the dishes, the child will do nothing. The same happens if you just give a few jobs.
- the Punishment should be useful, fit the severity of the misconduct and clear with clear criteria for its removal. Consider the examples. Child got two. Good riddance to write 10 lines, vocabulary words, or to solve 10 instances, that would require effort from the parent who will be forced to be around, to control the execution of the punishment. Usually, the parents are deprived of the computer for a week. What is the logic? It is naive to think that free time will be spent on lessons. The punishment becomes meaningless. Again, the punishment should be useful to train a skill is the proper punishment requires effort from the parents, because You want to help your child, not hurt him.
- Formulate tasks briefly and step by step. Does not work task: "clean up the room." Depending on the age and severity of behavioural disorders, consistently, to put the books on the bookshelf, vacuumed, folded clothes in the closet. The same with lessons to picked up the briefcase, took out a textbook, reading assignment and so on. As you overcome the difficulties of the user becomes more common.
- Moulded self-control. The ability to purposefully perform their actions does not occur suddenly. Man is a social being, all the skills are formed. Consider the example of homework student. In first grade, the child has a place where he will perform school work. Definitely need to prepare a place for adult, so he is not hung from the top and not huddled next to an uncomfortable chair. It is especially important to set a comfortable chair in the baby's room to parents of children with hyperactivity. They know about the problem, at least the age of five. Presence mom or dad is an external stabilizing factor of self-control. If the child remains one, it will start to play with toys at the first failure or signs of fatigue, lose concentration and preparation of lessons drag on for hours. Mother can do at this point needlework, reading, but time will intervene if the child self-control will be weakened. To see that mom was annoyed and was in no hurry, she wants to be comfortable, she must be busy doing something pleasant. Its assistance is needed occasionally. So self-control and purposeful activity are formed in the maturation of skills the parent can periodically leave the room, then the child takes the work completely.
- finally, the most important. Encouragement. From the moment of birth until the end of elementary school, the best encouragement of a child is a pleasant cooperation with the parent. Not a computer, not cartoons, no sweets, no entertainment, and cooperation. Of course, all of the above, the child receives based on our standard of living. We work with your time. Play Board, sports, even computer games, cook together, do together adults case. Allow the child to its territory within its competence. Remember, the child develops not when we do it, and when he does ours.
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