In the world, and in science there are different triangles. And in human life too. For example, the classic triangle wife - husband-mistress.
From the psychology of us the most famous triangle of Karpman: 1. The persecutor-Victim-Rescuer and 2. the "triangle" roles of Bern Parent-Child-Adult, and still is, the semantic triangle of Frege, which perfectly illustrates how our language find themselves three roles.
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All of these triangles have special practical interest if they are to look at each by itself, and by modifying the overlay.
Each participant will find its place. Determine it will help the feelings and behavioral characteristics.
the Victim – a sense of dissatisfaction with life and oneself, a call to rescue, "Save!" and the grudge against the Stalker (he's the cause of all her troubles).
he's none other than the one who yelled, offended, insulted, etc., etc.
it's Easy to place blame can be a Lifesaver, showing unnecessary initiative to rescue victims.
the triangles are rarely those who know the simple rule of "don't ask, don't help, please help if you can!".
But our man rushes to the aid of everywhere, in transport, on the street and in the store.
do not feed Bread, give somebody to save!
And then he's a good, noble citizen duty fulfilled and can sleep peacefully with a feeling of deep satisfaction.
this is the meaning of the Rescuer.
and Also a Stalker. He, in turn, will not sleep until you teach someone life, not cursed, not hurt, not offend!
But if there is no victim, there is no triangle, and in front of us on a silver platter, there are two roles: the Rescuer and the Persecutor.
now that's interesting!
If we look at them closely, we find surprising similarities. They, and the Rescuer and the Persecutor is very similar in its motivation against the victim.
This is a very subtle non-obvious caveat.
Figuratively speaking, Stalker – angel-tempter sitting on the left shoulder, and the Lifeguard – the guardian angel sitting on the right.
And both of them are ANGELS, only the fallen one!
here is found the truth that is hidden from the eye, and it is the motive that moves and Rescuer and Persecutor!
the Source is the desire to be good (Angel) and find the greatness in their own eyes, and then the only difference is in the way.
I Must say that the exit of the triangle is considered the most simple via Pursuer and not through the Rescue, because of his "badness" is not obvious.
But if you look closely, we see that the Rescuer and Persecutor are the same person. It's two mirrored character, with the only difference that where one right, the other left.
the Initial motive against the victim and that and the other – the good, only as it understands each of them.
the Savior doing good when not asked to and becomes guilty, the Stalker does evil, saying it that it's for the good of the victim. As a result, "causing good" Stalker also becomes guilty.
"St. Vitus's dance" happen in the relationship, and on the inner stage of the human soul.
Remember the old Soviet cartoon "Leopold the cat" where the cat was tormented by the evil mouse. This work of animation great example of the ligaments of the Persecutor-Rescuer and the victim it is as if not visible. It becomes the mouse, the cat. By the way, place two (cat-mouse), and the role of the three (the white mouse, gray mouse and the cat)!
Here's a paradox! The original two players, but role – three.
And where there are two, invariably the question arises, "you'll be third?".
And the third are certainly, if not real, the virtual, i.e. there will be a transition of the Rescuer to the victim or Persecutor to the victim.
If you suddenly feel the symptoms of the victim about it and look around and find those two (most often it is parents or other significant figures), who formed a relationship-a couple of "Rescuer-Persecutor".
this pair may have a different, for example: the Sadist-masochist Teacher-Student, Master-Slave, the Star - Fan, etc., etc.
And if you look closely, it is obvious that these two are not so bad. And then the question arises:
"What the hell did you take someone else's place?!!"
the best of the Best man is to become himself and to take a worthy place yourself, not someone else's.
So, "if you are plagued by mouse, stop trying to save the cat!".
So the triangles are lost children of related parents. And they are not to blame. Such a child is not able to understand the games played by the parents.
the Child perceives them as absolute truth.
If mom said that dad is bad, sooner or later in consciousness of the child there is a mother angel and father a demon and then the selfless love of a child to one parent and aversion to the other, may lead him to a state where inside of him brewing conflict from which escape seems impossible. The displacement traits of a parent.
as a result of inside is formed by a bunch of "cat-mouse", which is transferred to any real relationship.
these are "mind games"!
Blind to the love of one parent can lead to its likeness, and the demonization of the second, and people are only human.
two outputs: stop to rescue one or to pursue another, but as mentioned above
for Example, saving the father and the child unconsciously takes revenge on the mother, because "mom hates dad".
So "healthy role of" one – Adult, but the Parent and Child are at risk to gamble to the victim, if unaware of their responsibilities for manipulation.
the Main responsibility of adults is to remember that for children – kids games! For children cots, children's playgrounds, kindergartens, etc., etc.
And two words about the third triangle.
If you have lost the point, rather, lost myself, because for some reason, took his seat.
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