See another. How is it really?
From the moment of birth, we always contact and communicate. With the outside world. With other people. With yourself. Communication is one of the most important parts of our lives.
the Elements of communication are the same for all people, and they are as follows:
- our body, which has appearance and form,
- our values, beliefs and ideas about what I should do, what other people, what should I be, and what other
- the sense organs – eyes, ears, mouth and skin, through which we receive and process information
- the ability to speak,
- intelligence, our knowledge.br>
When I meet another person, my opinion of him formed out of the whole range – appearance, sound of voice, smell, what he says and how he says it. At the same time my brain processes the information and compares with my previous experience, my beliefs and ideas. And depending on coming from brain information, I'm going to feel the tension or freedom when dealing with this person. Something to say to him and to continue our dialogue or to turn around and leave.
for Example, it will be male. And it will have "dreadlocks". I just looked at him. My brain is already beginning to look for information on this type. And if, for example, "dreadlocks" equals "disadvantaged" - I will determine that communication with this man would be unpleasant for me. We haven't said a word, I don't know the man – and the beliefs and perceptions formed my past experiences have determined my conclusions.
similarly, the man – seeing my red hair, decide that I'm dangerous.
All this happens in a matter of seconds. An automatic reaction. What limits and driving in a narrow corridor. After all, a man with "dreads" can be a great source. And I'll never know. This happens not only with strangers. With family and friends, all exactly the same. I see and with whom you communicate, really? Husband, child or my ideas and fantasies about what they should be?
Missed opportunities – how many of them. Communication that brings a little joy and happiness. The good news is that studying, understanding themselves, their automatisms and beliefs, I can gradually change. Expanding the range of their reactions, feelings, actions, thoughts of the width of a toothpick to infinity.
That's what we'll do when you come to me for advice.
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sincerely, Anna Bulatova.
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