Every man met on his life's journey with grief. When an event occurs that cuts the ground from under his feet and plunges head first into an icy lake of shock and numbness. Then comes denial, "this is some mistake, this can not be!", emotional outbursts, anger, fear, trades, panic, guilt, isolation, loneliness, depression, dive inward, awareness of loss, etc.
From the pain of loss aches in my chest, the ground leaves from under legs, I want to fall, to just curl up in the fetal position and crying bitterly – after all, it helps to live pain. Weeping sorrow shakes and relaxes the body, opens the possibility for deep change and accepting the loss. And it is at this stage it is important to find resources that will help to return to normal life and to see different possibilities, to find new ways to live.
Resources of the individual is a vital support that are available to man, and allow him to provide for their basic needs such as survival, physical comfort, security, love, recognition, self-actualization, etc. They can look like in the outside world (e.g., money, material goods, information, support, etc.) and within themselves (their capacity, health, intelligence, character, experience, self-esteem, skills, resilience, strength, etc.). br>
a Reliable external resources to ensure the safety of domestic resources, but only if they are already there. If the person gets external resources, not having an inner, at any time there is a risk of their disappearance and falling into the trap of painful dependence, apathy, or depression. Therefore, it is important to cultivate support within itself, like the muscles of the person that grow as a result of constant stress. The more the acquired internal resources, the higher a person's ability to recover in case of loss of external resources, the greater its resistance to the environment, stronger self-awareness and stress. br>
But no matter how strong and independent is not the person to some internal resources it can not long exist. It is therefore particularly important after a decision loss to find a suitable environment and engage her in exchange to ensure with its help a variety of needs - otherwise, after some time, the internal capacity will be exhausted. In this case, the more a person increase the external resources, the stronger he gets inside and so it is easier to return to normal life.
In a weak state (especially after the grief) people can find their inner pillars and to rely on themselves. He is often not able to do without the support of loved ones and for the sake of this support may be ready to surrender, suffering from loneliness and seeks to escape from the emptiness. Or, conversely, may start to treat the world with hostility and suspicion, draining herself even more.
Because almost all energy sources are in the surrounding world and nature that we connect with such feelings like love, passion, enthusiasm, curiosity, inspiration, admiration, surprise, interest, sympathy, desire, desire, desire, etc. If the person is able to rely on their self-esteem, a sense of self-responsibility and trust in the world (i.e. the willingness to accept the events as lessons for self-improvement) and to feel the love of my life to him – he's fast enough to fill your life with energy and harmony. br>
in order to go faster, first we need to get acquainted with their resources (for example, with the help of the figure).
you need to draw a big flower with petals and leaves on the stem and bearing earth, where he grows, and in each petal write the quality that you are proud of and which can help.
the leaves need to enter the external resources on which you can rely (people who support in difficult situations, material goods, travel, Hobbies, art, etc.).
And finally, go to support (what is on flower) - something that is always important and essential in different situations. This is your inner core that needs to be filled, to preserve and cherish.
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