Many clients that come to see me are often surprised to the basic question "what do you feel now?" and often have difficulty answering it. In the constant rush of life we forget how important it is to be able to feel and recognize your feelings. Our fast-paced world asked high speed – in the morning we rush to work, then home, soon to go to the metro, exit the subway, at work, a constant race, and waiting for something we are starting to get annoying. At this rate we don't live, and in a hurry. And black humor will tell us where.
what causes this constant rush? We cease to feel. We eat when not hungry and when I have time to eat. And often choose not what I want to eat (because I used to not feel this), and that faster to be prepared/warmed up/eaten. The same happens with feelings are a reflection of this newcomer in the fashion Speed Dating, speed Dating.
a Lack of understanding of their feelings leads to the fact that the choice becomes extremely difficult. It was identified in 1932 by neurologist Antonio Damasio, who observed the patient after surgery removal of brain tumors near the frontal lobes. IQ of the patient after surgery has remained at the same level, however, it was not able to make decisions. The fact that after the operation the patient was unemotional, as was the damaged part of the brain that is responsible for the inclusion of emotions. Because of this, any decision for him was almost impossible – he could only spend endless analysis. In order to decide what day to schedule an appointment at the doctor, if both of the day free, he had to weigh all "for" and "against", including the weather. To select a cafe for Breakfast, he alternately went into each and compare menus, prices, atmosphere and many other factors. He could not live a full life because I did not feel anything and could not be effective on the job.
Only recognizing your feelings we can live your life, know what we like and what not, to rely on themselves and their opinions, not to seek continued support externally, to achieve goals, to enjoy life.
How to return the feeling?
1. Need patience. If you long taught himself not to listen to the feelings, it will take time to resume the connection.
2. Start to train on everyday situations. For example, in the supermarket, when choosing what to buy for dinner give yourself a few minutes to hold the product in your hands, to feel his desire, to determine impulse or do your body really want this product.
3. Slow down, don't rush yourself. Notice that when you want to sell something, that limits you in time for decision-making? For example, when purchasing tickets on the website there is a timer that reports the time when the outcome of the action or, the sellers say, which may result in product or discounts, in the hope that you will not have time to think things through and make a purchase.
4. make time for yourself, at least 5 minutes. Remember what you were doing with joy? May sang, painted, danced or dreamed of? Dedicate 5 minutes to yourself, pay attention to their feelings and dreams.
5. to forget in a hurry, enjoy the moment. Sometimes we are so used to being in this state of haste that we do not notice the situation when it is meaningless. For example, if you are in the way to work and hurry at the moment when you boarded the bus, subway, taxi - you are already a little that depends. You did everything you could to get a job at the time, and while you eat, allow yourself to enjoy the view from the window, think about something pleasant escape from the bustle. This will allow you to come to work in a balanced state and to be more effective than constantly hurrying with your colleagues.
Give yourself permission not to rush when possible. Notice changes in your mood, explore yourself, respect your feelings.
If you work with the senses brings you discomfort, you don't want to get lost, to drown in the emotions or did not manage to begin to recognize their feelings and therefore desires – refer to the psychologist.
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