When I come in for psychological help, they come with various problems. Problems at all different, but all these problems have a common root. A client comes for consultation begins to tell his personal history. This story can be about anything – family problems, problem child, lack of money, fear, anxiety, it.d. But, the question arises – where is this story in which he lives is the problem? And here is the answer – all the stories are in the past! The client brings with him his past, he is dragging his past, he “stuck” in the past. And what the client wants? Well, you probably guessed it – he wants to get rid of this past. But how to do it? Usually, a man runs from his past into the future. He doesn't want to have in the future. Hence fear, anxiety. And any fear lives only in the future. For example, if you now think about your fear, you will see that this fear is linked with the future. What are you worried about? Fears are different, but all these fears are only related to the future.
we get the following picture – every problem comes from the past and projected into the future.
Often hear the expression: “it hurts Me to think about it”, “I don't want that to happen again”, “what if…”, “and suddenly it happens again…”, it.p.
so, we can make an initial withdrawal – any problem, whatever it was lives either in the past or in the future.
But the past is gone and future has not come yet!
I'm Sure you've all heard these famous sayings: “tomorrow is another day” or “to Solve problems as they come”. What learn these sayings? They teach about not dragging my past and not worry about the future.
does the problem Exist in the present moment?!
In the present moment there is no problem!
let me Give a simple example. There is a category of clients who suffers from panic attacks. A panic attack is usually associated with various fears and conditions that one experiences and often this is due to concern about their health. So any panic attack is nothing but anxiety about their future. Negative thoughts about the future haunted man, giving various psychosomatic reactions. Man begins to go to doctors, take medicine, although no disease no special. So why are people suffering? Because he can't be in the present moment. When I ask such by the client in the counseling process – “right now you feel fear or anxiety?” And it is striking that almost all customers respond – “no”. That is, in the present moment there is no fear or anxiety. But, fear arises when thought comes related to the fact that it was in the past or an imaginary future in mind.
Here's another example relating to the relationship between men and women. When a man or woman complain that they have problems with a partner is almost always associated with negative experiences in the past or inflated expectations, and the expectations known to belong to the future. Man or woman project onto each other their past images or imagined images. As a result of the conflict, quarrel, mutual aggression. And if you remove past memories and fears for the future – what will remain?! And there will be only present moment.
the moment, clean from the past and the future.
And this applies to any problem! The problem is not able to exist in the present moment, because it nourishes the problem only to the past or the future.
what do you think - why a person takes alcohol, drugs or sex addiction? Because he finds relaxation and a moment of relaxation is satisfaction, peace, happiness. Alcohol, drugs and sex for a short period lead the man away from the problems of the past and the future, a disturbing thought process stops and the person begins to experience the life that is always here and now. Alcohol, drugs and sex is the external stimulants, which uses a person to relax, to forget, to stop your mad mind and enter the present moment. But, what are the consequences? People fall into dependence on external stimulants with often dire consequences. the question Arises: “How to learn a natural way to relax, to enjoy life, to stop suffering, to be happy?”. The answer is only one - to learn to be in the present moment and live this moment totally. In the present there is neither bad nor good because there is no mental interpretations, evaluations, past and future.
In the present moment – God lives!
Life is always Here and Now!
Feel the moment right now.
Feel your breath, your body, look and listen all around without any evaluation, without any labels, memories, imagination.
And then where is the problem?! There is only Life itself! Life has no problems, because Life is not dragging the past and the future.
In Life there is always a freshness date.
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