Story I want to tell you, happened long ago. So long, first in a state of emotional shock asked for help by the mother, and after fifteen years came to see me her daughter, who was depressed with panic attacks.
the problems came to me the first mother, and then by chance and her daughter, were associated with one person – my ex-husband's mother, who, as her stepfather, became her lover.
as told in the office of a psychologist mother?
the Woman was briefly happy with young (several years younger) husband only as long as they were more or less normal sexual relationship. Not her dreams came true and the brother to his seven daughters, as sexual life with the husband is gone. "Shake up" his intimate relationship to her and failed. Husband this subject did not want to discuss. He always evaded a direct answer to uncomfortable questions for him, giving, perhaps, to understand that the problem is the weakening of men's abilities. In all other respects, he remained the exemplary husband: money provided, the step-daughter were not hurt, continued to be attentive and kind family man.
Attempts to persuade her husband to address to the sexologist was also not successful. A woman for some time he was jealous, thinking that he has a mistress, but then came to terms with the lack of sex. She was reassured that all evenings, nights and holidays, I was home. Besides, having my own apartment, he didn't show any intention to leave the family. Times late husband loved to sit at the computer and prevented her from sleeping, they even began sleeping in different rooms. Times impotent, what can we do?
In such a Platonic relationship the couple lived for a few years until the wife discovered that her husband was watching porn with the girls. And, in the shock of it, she finally thought about what the young man could seduce her daughter. Really he was such a wretch? How could his own daughter to go to such baseness, become the rival of the mother? How so?! How could they?! Can't be! The woman was beside himself with anger. Felt humiliated, betrayed two of the most native people.
Yes, it so happened that for several years the woman did not notice that her husband cohabited with her young daughter. Mother figured out that at a time when the husband was "impotent", the little girl was only 7 years old. And skillfully seduced the girl had time to get used to the role of mistress of her stepfather, falling in love with him already as a man. And quite successfully played the role of an obedient and correct my mother's daughter scenario stepfather. Retroactively woman remembered that she had gone to visit, to travel alone, leaving the daughter and step-father together, not to mention other things that should have alerted unsuspecting woman.
the Man, subtly and blatantly corrupted and vlyubivshis in small stepdaughter, no doubt require all sorts of condemnation. However, the main culprit in this family drama can be called the mother, who, bringing into the house, into the family of another child, the man failed to protect his daughter from the depraved pedophile.
Not, of course, in every stepfather to see the pedophile and libertine. And all the women who find their husbands, while having daughters, it is important to understand that over time, living under the same roof with daughters of their women, the newly-born husband for his male nature can begin to respond to them as small, but women.
- Especially if it's mentally immature, troubled man.
- Especially if it's a drinker.
- Especially if the wife cannot share a life so as not to tempt man to the manifestation of its biological beginning (co-sleeping, bathing, kissing and cuddling, the habit of walking around in underwear, long stay with his stepfather alone without a mother...).
we must Not forget that a growing daughter unwittingly may perceive their mothers as rivals, seeing as the stepfather penichet wife or mother flirts with her stepfather. Remembering about conscience, social taboos, it is better not to forget about the biological beginning, which should not tempt.
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