What ideas affect us when we lose a loved / know that soon I will lose?
- "you can't think and talk!" "I have to do everything to say and do for him/her""we Need to hold on, not to show how hard it is""don't talk about it! Not zamorachivat others with your problems""there Is worse""Think only about the good"
to Experience contradictory feelings, think about what seems wrong is right. We have the right to think and feel as it comes.
These ideas are often deprived us of this right, and bring not effects
guilt, something did not, cried, thought, tired, and wanted it to be over. Why guilt it's what he wants to do it? What are you
— Lack of power: when ideas forbid us to feel sad, to cry, to smile, to live - we're losing something valuable, perhaps even shared with the person who died or is dying. If he is near you now, what would he tell you?
— Insulation: it is very difficult to share what is happening. Refer to the pain that comes in response to loss. Allow yourself to grieve, feel sorry for yourself. Not lechites those people that can be there for and support. Who are these people? Perhaps it's books, movies, heroes, animals? What and what do they tell us?
Ideas come in different reasons
— We could introduce them adults childhood. Is it for me now? Consistent with what I wanted(a) would your family? Can I as for adults offer another idea? What would it be?
— We hurt, we don't know how different. What would this "hurt" instead of what it is now? I want to take care of it "hurts"?
Such thoughts it is important for us to save something. They can speak about our values. What could it be and how it can be done otherwise, nicely in relation to itself?
— the Society, the trends of positive thinking. Do they correspond to what I'm going through and how you want it to do?
— There are reasons that you have noticed? Write in the comments.
take care, hug. Answer no useful ideas as it is important for you and correctly. And after the answer take the first small step in support of yourself. How does he look?
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