Separation from loved ones is a difficult period. Not always easy to recognize that the relationship is finished, to let go of a loved one and make the changes in your life in this regard. Different people have different Heartbreak: from mild sadness to heartache and despair, from disappointment to anger and painful offense, from boredom to loneliness and devastation.
the Intensity of emotions depends on many factors, from personal characteristics to the human world. Feelings subside, when one begins to rethink what is happening and their assessment of it. During this change his ideas about himself, about people, relationships, about the world.
What is delaying the process of experiencing and prevents the reinvention?
- deconditioning beliefs and unrealistic beliefs about yourself, about people, about relationships, about life;
- Troubleshooting and fault jam in the offense. Auction "if I did it differently, he would have stayed...";
- control over the lives of the partner: careful attention to the information about it, access to it in the social pages. networks. This behavior only reinforces the bond: current needs (closeness, love) – satisfaction through relationships exclusively with this partner. Shifting attention helps to loosen that connection and to see the different options and opportunities to meet the needs.
What beliefs and cause emotional problems?
"Our Union must be eternal. Partner will be there always and no matter what" .
"I can't be alone/one."
"I'm worthless, and therefore will not create more of a relationship."
"Once he/she quit, so I'm not good enough/good, beautiful/handsome, smart/intelligent, attractive/attractive"...
a Few recommendations on how to get over a breakup
- Give yourself time to grieve, to rethink what is happening. Experiencing a breakup goes through the same stages as experience any significant loss. Prior to the adoption of reality as it is, the person meets with the denial of these events inside, feeling guilty, aggression, depression. These processes can occur more than once.
- Learn how to treat yourself warmth, understanding and acceptance.
- put the focus on his life. Listen to his needs. Set goals and objectives, both long-term and on a daily basis.
- Find time for their interests, Hobbies, activities that bring pleasure, inspiration, a sense of calm, stability, security.
- Enlist the support of family, friends, therapist.
- keep an open mind: impressions, ideas, lessons.
- Recognize the right of another to his own choice in his life.
Certain actions (rituals) help you to feel the completeness relations. These techniques a lot. For example, expressive letter, addressed to the partner. Such a letter does not need to send. Enough fully, without censorship to Express their feelings and then tear up or burn the letter.
If the self fails to cope with emotions, seek help from a psychologist.
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