don't know who reads my articles, but the one who does it, you might notice that I often call to action, responsibility for your life, actions, feelings and words.
This may cause a different response. I think mostly positive, a nod and grunt approvingly. However, not everyone after reading my, or someone's, like topics, articles, and begins to turn life in another direction, doing real things. Understand the restructuring of their thought and behavioural construct is almost the same as the operation on himself without anesthesia. However, it is not about instant change, but about the step-by-step, planned development.
Reading the forums here, I notice that a huge number of people who want free advice, looking for simple attention and hype around his person. They like to hang in the child's position, without changing anything, they are constantly searching for those who will support them, Pat on the head or you'll regret it. They go into a lengthy discourse, read a lot, complain about life, however, when it comes down to it, is cut bait and start to blame others for various sins: "and you what, I bet they do the same?", "go and try to do this is difficult, I agree with you, but he's good in the rest of the time" (the notorious "Yes, but..."), "I'm not going to say anything, it's not true" "I tried, but nothing works!", etc.
And some psychologists, agreeing for some reason on long conversations with these clients, this way and that knocking at the closed door, not knowing that nobody will discover that that door is just a simulation, and that whoever is on the other side of the wall, happy as a child, one known to him the benefits.
the Most important and difficult to understand in this whole situation - people do not want to pay for your changes. They just want to want from these changes and does not happen turning in endless lamentations and complaints.
Why is it necessary to pay for the services of a psychologist and why is the key to successful, effective therapy?
1) a Psychologist is a person who studies such science as psychology, for years. He spends money on training, attending personal therapy (also for money) in order to sort out their problems, which in disassembled condition may affect the interpretation of client queries and responses; reads a lot of literature, attending workshops and seminars, and in General doing everything possible to improve their competence.
then a normal specialist course will put a specific quote for my services, he spends time and energy on the client, uses its own resources and carries out serious intellectual work, calling upon their memory, experience and creativity, because all the problems, though, and have a certain root (the root cause), each occur individually and have to manage to find the approach help to understand the man the way that will be most effective in this situation.
2) Money is a resource, energy, a certain value. Whether you have a difference in relation to the dress, worth 500 rubles, and the dress, valued at 5000 rubles? And if you've heard from some people the phrase "I paid the money for it, I have to go there"? Statistics inexorable results: on paid seminars level of awareness of the assimilation of information and activity is +- 90%, in contrast to the free with their 35-40%. And all based on one simple thought: "I so need and love that I am willing to pay for it out of her purse and squeeze this much information what I can."
Therapy will only become valuable when you will pay for it the amount mind. And I'm not talking about the need to pay exorbitant money for you, we are talking about the internal sense of self. Here 1000R. easily given, and 1300-1500 R. it is a pity.
for three years I attended personal therapy for a certain price, reduced especially for me - I was pretty hard to pay and I went to the meeting. Now I do not go to therapy all the time, but when I come, I try to pay for it twice because I was easy to pay for the initial session reduced the amount for me. And I felt the difference when appreciated our therapist work as a more expensive, thereby raising the efficiency to a higher level.
the Result is a consequence of the acts committed. Qualitative result is the consequence of the quality of the performed actions.
the Level of your life will increase, if you will not only take but to give, with respect to themselves and to the people.
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