With the permission of the client obtained in the course of employment.
the person came with query. A high enough level of income to have expensive cars, several homes, an expanding business. And while the man was in depression.
Family, a loving and beloved wife, children. Described above. And there is no state of happiness.
No, the flashes were, when you purchase a new car, a successful transaction, and success of children.
But all this against the backdrop of anguish and the search for the meaning of life.
It was a midlife crisis. When that there is not need of the individual. And what you want, just don't have it. Not even understand what you want. There is only a strange longing, a searching gaze and a desire to get drunk. From the words of the client.
Then there are those goals and benchmarks that were, were not needed. It was what was required and considered important - parents, family and status people. That is OK.
- Bought a new car, I didn't feel anything. I just change one scenery to another. Higher quality more expensive. But not warming my soul. My survival has changed - quality of life. I'm not saying that he is ready to sacrifice everything for the sake of something. But, what is, does not suit me.
the client request can be deployed a little wider.
In several ways.
- the growth of the material welfare of life. Just stockpiling resources.
- the Growth of external, visible side of the standard of living. When you have an expensive car, apartment in a prestigious district, high quality stuff and debt, loans, the inability to meet their own needs. That is hostage to the status.
- Growth in personal wealth resulting from financial growth. When met in the first place requests own self Not through the approval of other people. Not the pursuit of power, popularity and status.
- Increase personal wealth. Not associated with a material component.
the Welfare in this case is considered as the availability of the necessary resources for a full life. And what is the criterion of a full life, then to each his own.
to separate the personal from imposed, it is worth remembering the dreams of childhood. Wanted child, a little person. Which was not looking for approval, protection, and love in this moment. Who know the world, in all its diversity. After this sincere curiosity, desire, imposed, restrictions, requirements, limitations. Which after years, become so familiar that we sometimes substitute for those first wishes and dreams. Let these dreams and desires were naive, they can say were not high-flying. But then few knew this dream and willing personality.
the Reasons for the refusal of many dreams and not about them speech. In each individual case. Just pay attention to what is being done at the moment. What's going on in your life? A change of scenery or the welfare of your soul?
What happened to the client I don't know. In one meeting, he suddenly said: I understand, I know what to do.
Thanked. Said that'll be fine.
For me as a specialist is the best option to complete consultations.
There are good books about midlife crisis. Comprehensible to most people.
James Hollis "the Pass in the middle of the road", "Finding meaning in the second half of life. How to become a real adult."
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