Watching the clients found themselves face to face with a dangerous and partners wishing to escape the web of power over them, found striking feature, all victims of aggressors in a database have an increased level of anxiety, which was formed long before the meeting with such a man in this trait of the character also lies the reason for the choice. Let's leave moms and dads we will return to them later, but for now lay this mechanism.
Aggressors often have some power inside, and the victim reads it as an opportunity to obtain protection. The aggressor, unlike the victim can stand up for themselves, to arrange a separation, often positions itself as competent in all matters man and if the victim will listen to him that promises life is protected. Disturbing the person just lacks such a confidence, pressure, strength of spirit and how she herself seems all these missing qualities are in him that is why he is so attractive to her. The aggressor actually is the same trevornick only adapted to mask it behind a mask of omnipotence, omniscience, etc. the sacrifice he sees the point of application of the forces and projects on it (unconsciously sees it) that part of ourselves from which he turns away. Its hypercontrol, sadism, anger raining down on the victim as if he looked inside and saw that the nutria him sits the same scared kid who chose a response of "beat" but the inner child is very unsatisfied and lives in constant fear of something or someone inside your world. Actually controlling other people a man to control his senses, so God forbid no one recognized his vulnerability.
In these two cases, Trevornick victim need to recognize that hidden inside this most brutal aggressor that she doesn't want to see but who controls and intimidates her even when external threats no. It is a cruel inner parent, insecure, punishing, frightening consequences from any such acts or omissions.
Aggressor trevornick you need to understand that he lives inside this very sacrifice which is the fear and suffering as his foreign partner from his cruelty, natural and a manifestation of their true feelings are not weakness, and naturalness. What you can afford to take and their vulnerability with respect to this within yourself. To choose another way of obtaining happiness, not frightening and not being afraid himself. To take the path of respect and acceptance of others as they are.
Very often one or another has the same setting "a dangerous World" only one protected and the other is looking for protection and support, and all external objects a priori hostile to them.
If you remove these beliefs, and to treat trauma causing anxiety and aggression the relationship on the principle of the Stalker, the victim themselves will disintegrate. After all, there's no reason anyone "scare" if there is no charge on the subject of fear, and will not have to defend against that which is not. br>
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