1. He wants constant assurance to your feelings
If your man wants to hear about how you love him, there is nothing strange or unusual about it. But if it literally requires you various evidence of this, and a hundred and fifty times a day asks do you love him still, he clearly has a problem with their own self-assessment. He just doesn't believe you have for him really sincere and deep feelings, he can not believe that you really love him, not just pretending.
Maybe your men had bad experiences in previous relationships where it just used, not loved and so now he has a lot of complexes and low self-esteem. Of course, you can try to restore his faith in himself, but warn that it is a very long and difficult process.
Therefore, if you do not ready, then you better offer him to go to therapy and figure it all out, and you will support it. Or just leave, because this is your life and your decisions. Therefore, nobody has the right to judge you, because in any case, the choice of who you stay with and who not here only for you.
2. He tries to control you
If a man tries to control you in all aspects of your life - from checking your phone, very detailed questioning of where and with whom did you go and ending with jealousy, as they say, "every post", you just shy and very insecure .
And don't think that after marriage this will change and he will finally calm down. Likely to be on the contrary a man will be included in the excitement and feeling that you he has officially "belong" could further enhance its control. So think carefully whether you are ready to connect his life with such a man.
3. He blames unfaithful
Your man is just some insecure that he constantly has thoughts about what you can change. You can prove and "beat his chest", that is not true and you just love him more and you don't need anyone, but whatever you do - it's just not going to believe you.
4. You are his onlyth source of happiness
You and this relationship you become to your partner the only source of joy and happiness, a kind of ray of light in his "grey and dull" life. So he is very afraid of losing you, and therefore continuously monitors alone for a long time and do not let go, because if you leave him, then what remains in his life ...? Such a man as insecure, that just doesn't know if he can survive your breakup and in General whether he even ever be happy again.
Therefore, most likely, your partner started this relationship with you is through your own feelings of loneliness and uselessness, and not through sincere feelings to you. And as you know, relationships that began with one or two partners to drown out his loneliness and to shift the responsibility for their happiness on another, in principle, nothing good can happen simply can not.
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