have you ever dream that never come true? To make plans that are doomed to failure? You can, of course, to argue and say that it is not necessary ahead of time to set yourself up for failure, it all depends on those plants that people ask themselves.
However, the reality often refutes this. For example, I can't draw or paint at the level of the layman, but just to tremble at the knees want to become a designer. And in order to create websites, and that others just "breathtaking" when they see how well I can get it. I recorded courses. Because another one to be sure. I cherish hopes, build plans. But here's the thing – no matter what I take, I'm missing it, or it turns out anyhow. I'm upset, drop everything and curse the fate, which does not allow me to realize. And, as a result, lose faith in yourself.
people ask Me how I was doing. And I say that everything is hopeless, hopeless, and so I no what to take I will not. Go to work, which frankly annoys me, meeting with friends who don't understand how hard it is for me. And begin no reason to feel sorry for yourself. But why unreasonable? I have failed to "reach the dream" to become that which I wanted. I spend all the strength to cope with the frustration and are desperately trying to "invent" what else would I want, what else could motivate me. And think "I want to learn to cook." And yet again the new. Again courses, again the desire to "become one in which everything turns", and almost immediately. No, of course, I recognize that I need time. That's just the thing – to this day I could, except that just fry an egg and have never experienced the desire to "fix things", as not particularly versed in the culinary delights and all in the food unpretentious. And again disappointed to start all over again.
Why is this happening? Where does this desire to follow the dream that can be so detached from reality that simply cannot be realized? Is from a lack of diligence?
I myself, as a mom, somehow I caught myself on the fact that pronounce the son, who could not "English" that he is not trying. Although he was simply hard. And English seems to not exactly be his "Forte" and his life's work. But he excels in robotics and mathematics. But whence the undertaken setting that the child must be successful (or, at least, must have time in core subjects, and learn from them, not lower than "good" or "excellent"), periodically makes itself felt.
to Apply force useful where you get. Where you feel successful, and should not be.
I imagine that now I "fly sneakers" (by the way, I covered his head and even wore a helmet) in order that the difficulty only Sakalaut. But not in them alone. If a child, for example, perfectly dances and sings, or success in sport and applies forces to that he good at developing (not without the help of parents) the talent, is completely insufficient? Really it is necessary to put obstacles in front of him, telling him that "it will not happen in my life", if, say, he does not have time for math or other subjects?
left untreated it is definitely not worth it. But to put pressure on the child, too. Otherwise it will contribute to the development of his low self-esteem and undermine faith in their own strength. Should help, but at the same time to relate their expectations with the real possibilities of the child.
Returning to the topic of this article, I want to mention, that need "to be better at what you can't do it" (namely, to dream of the impossible) is often born out of a desire to prove to her parents that "that this is something he definitely could do it." And he is adult man, begins to live within, given him in childhood, where it is taught that "the harder you aim, the more desirable the reward and the higher you are ranked".
I Will be grateful for your opinions, especially if they go contrary to what is written in the article. Because the truth is always somewhere in the middle and is born in the discussion.
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