quite Often young couples come put request. Where all that was in the beginning? Those tender feelings, sincere talk about eternal till the morning, with this understanding of the problems and a feeling of complete unity? And hope that it will be absolutely always, and the honeymoon period will never end.
many couples are Now extending this period by postponing the wedding, the birth of a child, acquisition of major shopping and all other important issues, other than buying beer and chips. Living together in a civil marriage.
In this period, people really can not bother with such issues as “in whose flat they live, who pays more for communal and loves their mother is their chosen”. As the mother of the chosen one often thinks, “and suddenly it all seriously. It will take time, and they break up. Why would I tell son (daughter) to him (her) not a couple”.
But how much rope does not veysya, but the relationship at one point very much themselves asking to go to the next step (or go nowhere). And the young man and girl I understand that in the matters of life, they either do not coincide or are not able to agree on joint solutions. To all, have always been attracted other, and yet all the issues were frivolous, and for a long time didn't even notice that the strong inflection of responsibility in his direction.
What happens after okanchaniya such a tremendous romantic period?
now, the phase that tests the youth on how much they are “grew” as people and whether they are ready to build adult in a serious relationship. Or they still need to live in this fruit period of several years. Without responsibility, without decision, without any “headache” of a similar nature.
And if not?
what will happen after? If the couple does not proceed to a higher stage of development of relations no matter they have time to run to the registry office or not, the love boat relationship can not withstand these tests. And broken on the rocks of misunderstanding, aggression, tears and care in the nursery position – “he started it”, “will not be so, as you said, and all, just not all”, “I other people's opinion more important than yours (I'm not ready to make decisions in his pair), ‘it's your problem, they don't touch me" your parents do not interest me, meet with them himself (herself) and to establish relationship”, “what I want, I do, it's your idea, I don't care”, “I have no such responsibilities, you're a man (woman) – is only your problem”.
How to survive this stage?
First – it's all the same to understand that You have grown up, that decisions and responsibilities are not only personal but also joint. That the opinion of the partner should be more important than the opinion of a friend, mom, etc. Because you already have a family. And the distribution of work should be approximately equal.
And I want to recommend, yet you don't really want to leave, never say the phrase: “I will live without you!»
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