«То есть ты выбираешь не двигаться, пока тебя не подвинут?»

"so you choose not to move, until you move?"Many people devote themselves to implement the concept of what they should be instead fulfilling. The distinction between self-fulfillment and realize their image is very important. Many live only for their image. br> F. Perlcast we are sorely loaded with work and household chores, and has neither the strength nor the time to think about yourself, your body and your mental state. The impression that we are like puppets, moving only when necessary for someone else but not us. But we feel every moment that life lacks life. How long have you been doing something that really love? Allow yourself to indulge? Ask yourself a question: "what now being present in my life, is this really what I choose?"

And every morning we get her motor running, eat to work, pull the day until the evening. Come home. And like that's it - "free time for life". But how do we use it? Like most, you have chores. Whole lot of them! And after a hard day you just want to lie down in front of the TV, look through the tape in social networks, not thinking about anything. If you are haunted by the anxiety, apathy, feelings of too rapid flow of time (just had the weekend, and again Friday. Gone dark a week?), this article will be useful to you.

"so you choose not to move, until you move?" - this phrase uttered Sergey Usov, coach therapeutic group of Gestalt therapists, which includes me. I will not reveal the context in which this phrase was voiced, in any case, I understand it differently. The phrase is simple, but for me was the "tub of cold water" which makes us think about life. We can hardly choose for yourself what you really want. And it's not just a habit, and become the absolute norm in society and even encouraged. From food choices, to running. And it seems to be working is your choice, but you would go on a lesser paying job, which would give more pleasure? Or to work fewer hours and spend more time with family? But what about the loans and payment of utilities? But the truth is that we are doing something, not because I have to but because we choose to do it. Our whole life is a chain of elections. We make choices and then be responsible for its consequences.

Let's remember how long have you been doing something you really love? Take a few minutes to run 3 a little exercise.

1. think and write at least 20 paragraphs of what gives you pleasure. Look for the continuation of the words: "I love..."
Describe your typical day on two points: "Made with fun" "Made because they have". Really worth to sit and think about what you really want. When we do only what you need and not doing anything from what we want, we get sick physically.
2. Describe your typical day on the clock, how many minutes a day you're not doing anything? Or busy "empty cases". Be honest with yourself, these moments always have a place to be. For example: the time aimlessly spent on social networks, watching TV and hanging out for hours on the phone.

What next?

first, to realize, to feel written.

second, I can confidently recommend to start therapy with a psychologist. But if not yet, here are a few options of what I do:

1. Every day do at least a few things that you love.
Every two hours to take short breaks in activities (10-15 minutes). During these breaks you can practice meditation, sit in a relaxed position and watch your breath. To say thank life for what you have.
Finding the time during the day when you are busy with the Affairs, think about how you could use it? To read the literature you like, keep a diary, think about future projects.
2. In every case try to find something nice and useful. Ask yourself a few questions: "As what I do now, I can be useful to resolve my personal life challenges. How can I bring a piece of your personality in this case? What I can teach? Why am I doing this, what kind of return I want?"
3. Laughter and humor. I'm a fun loving person, love to joke and laugh. Had not found a place for humor in the workplace, it seemed to me, it destroys my image. After working with a therapist about it, I seemed to awake. Now actively taking the piss and joking with colleagues, encouraging smile. It REALLY helps me, grateful to my colleagues, my boss invited to his office for a Cup of tea and practically ceased to present a claim to me.

Important not to forget that life is now! All the leverage in the present. We can influence their lives, only when we are present "here and now". What exactly would be the impact on your life right now?