I Want to ask You a few questions. What do You think actually see Your eyes👀? What actually hear Your ears 👂 and So heart ❤️? Are You able to inhale the aromas👃and feeling the touch 🤝 his present and your real life?
perhaps, at first, these questions will sound to You a bit silly. "of Course I adult and adequate man - and able to use their senses!" some would think in response to them. But what if You look at several layers deeper ⤵️⤵️⤵️?..
↪️ it Often happens: there is something right here and now.
for Example, standing in front of You is a living person, a close person. And tells You some kind of phrase. And like, see You now on it and see it, and even phrase to hear able...
But here's the problem: in my story you've heard exactly the same phrase several times - and heard in those circumstances when it was really painful. Or scared. Or, perhaps, in this regard, You felt vulnerable, defenseless, unwanted, lonely, felt shame or guilt - no matter what...
And more importantly: if that previous traumatic experience has not been lived and released for real, then You are unlikely to save sobriety of thought and adequacy of perception of what is happening in the above situation, "here and now". Most likely, you will see
the reality through the prism of shadows 👻👻👻 Your past.
And then:
↪️these shadows cloud Your opinion, and the person in front of You is not seen as unique individuals, instead of through the filter of all those, the previous ("All men identical" - a phrase for example);
↪️inside at this point begins the unbearable stink of the pus of Your chronic wounds behind the stench of the man is just not able to feel present and to respond in healthy in accordance with it;
↪️and every cell in your body vibrates with pain, anger, despair;
↪️and all this is so frustrating, it seems that it remains only two choices...
🚪the First is to attribute all their internal kakashechka 💩 the man in front of You now ("And after all this he uttered the unfortunate phrase/stepped on my sore spot, isn't it?!"). Poured on his head an angry tirade, all that boils 😤 intra - and him and the "guy", as they say... And then, as often happens, you start to experience regret and regret, blaming myself of incontinence.
🚪the Second is the usual way to remain silent, leaving everything to boil 😤 inside yourself. To form a new wound to deal with. Which then will also fester and become poison if not people outside - so the inside of You.
many people in the minds of other options if it does not exist. And it's sad that all their lives they choose to survive in this mode, instead of yourself and others permission to be themselves and to really live.
For some, under the influence of coaching or smart books from category psychology of positive thinking, it becomes possible to see the next door.
🚪At head level they understand that the past is just the past. Catch yourself in moments like these, when attributed to the current situation characteristics occurring previously. With an effort of will to stop an unhealthy reaction. And, like a mantra, I repeat to myself: "the Past is gone. Live in the here and now"...
That sounds good. But‼️ With this approach when people change only the behavior and the thinking series, but it doesn't get cleaned chronic wounds deep inside easier it becomes. Yes, it may bring temporary relief and even a sense of euphoria. As analgin 💊. But no more...
here is another hard but fair, a metaphor on the subject that was born yesterday in a dialogue with one of the clients. If the room where there is dirty, smelly and a long time chistuchina the toilet, ahead of air freshener, for example, "Alpine meadows" for some time indeed smell will become more pleasant, and to breathe easier. the
And air fresheners, as analgesics - a useful invention if you use them as intended and in conjunction with other measures. But it is an illusion that through him, we somehow affect the source of the problem. Because of the aroma of Alpine meadows, the bowl is covered with nice green grass 🌿 and pink flowers 🌼...
But because it remains the last, most difficult, demanding time, effort, energy, and sometimes finances, decision. The most unpleasant in its execution, perhaps. But it is also the most healing...
🚪Gradually open your old wounds from the past. One by one, patiently and getting hurt in the future recovery. Be rinsed and cleaned, spray it with antiseptic, places to sew and handle the seams...
And in the process, as with bodily wounds, is different. If it is about minor scratches or small cuts - maybe not enough to ignore them, timely processing, the time to protect the tape and then let dry on the air... Which translated to the language of health means emotional awareness within the feelings, name them by their names, permit yourself to experience and accommodation/expression in any healthy ways.
in case of serious wounds, prolonged healing, secondarily infected, with an abundance of pus, etc. - none of the clinics You will not be offered to treat them at home. As a minimum, will be assigned daily dressings, which will need to go to the specialist surgeon and his assistants - nurses... And it happens sometimes that required intensive treatment in hospital settings.
So why do many people think that mental wounds not the case? Why, taking on "random" and "self-will", many people report their symptoms arising as a consequence of internal injuries, to a state close to disaster?! Many clients come to therapy only when a very strong discomfort bring psychosomatic diseases (frankly, for me this was the final impetus for going to the therapist at the time, although I had planned to walk to it long before 😊), or when unbearable pain in relationships, or when depression is inside so that you don't want to live 🤔?!..
Yes, of course, the help 🚑 and possible need and at this stage. And as in emergency medicine save lives in acute strokes and heart attacks, so we have, "healers of the soul," have the opportunity to help in a crisis state.
But how do you want to allow more people the brainchild ofIVALIS on timely treatment. To any wounds physical or spiritual are not ignored ("okay, I'm fine, and the pain I just think to myself") and not run ("Nothing terrible, you just have to endure, and it will go away").
And Yes, for many an obstacle to therapy I think the investment of time ⏳ and means 💸. But believe me, in the end, when the body is no more strength to endure and to resist, in any case will have to invest 💸 drugs and lose their due to a temporary loss of efficiency. And often the amount will be much more.
For those who are ready to work in therapy on healing your own inner wounds, the consequence is not only gradual internal growing up, gaining maturity, stability, adequacy and parting with many "shadows" 👻👻👻 the past in real life. But most other colors 🌈 who begin to open, a different level of awareness and freedom in the accommodation of what is happening. And this has a significant impact on physical health, and satisfaction with the relationship, and overall quality of life.
But for obvious reasons, to work and dig in 💩 not many want 😊 And I have great respect for those who choose to go this way, and happy when they trust me with the role of the conductor, choosing as his therapist.
But also with respect I accept and those who choose otherwise. A bit painful to watch how people allow these shadows from your past to steer 🚗 their lives, especially if we are talking about loved ones. But it is their right and their freedom.
the right of each of you is to choose who will rule the ball inside You and in Your circumstances. Shadows of the past 👻👻👻 or a pure and conscious view through the prism of the heart and mind, able to see and feel the whole range of colors present 🌈🌈🌈? Sooner or later, life confronts almost every one of us with a similar choice. And it is only in Your own hands 🤗
I Wish to finish reading this text until the end, to make choices consciously and in a timely manner ⏰
And wonderful tonight!..
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