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What is temperament?

As a rule, modern science considers the temperament through the lens of type of higher nervous activity. Basically, such basic properties as resistance (the ability to manage themselves) and vertivert (intravartolo and agreeableness). And yet, this is pure biochemistry, which depends on many things: strength and speed the flow of thought and emotional processes, plasticity and stability of mentality, tempo and rhythm, focus inward or outward. Temperament is a natural base for the formation of character. So is it an innate characteristic of personality is inherited. So complaints of "who is he?" is irrelevant: certainly, mom or dad.

to Identify which temperament a child has, you can have two years. To do this, experts advise to watch him on awakening: melancholy morning — just in case sad and clinging to mom. While hot-headed, got up, and ran, and better not to disturb him. And phlegmatic — calm woke up and immediately something took... Sanguine as to man-the Communicator for the desired contact, and feedback. So he'll Wake everybody up and create a tour — easy and fun.

However, there is still a lot of tests:

1. as the child says.
2. respond to the comments,
3. behaving in unfamiliar surroundings and with other children

However, in the age of crisis adequate definition is impossible — all children are stubborn, willful and with "horns."

you Should know that the temperaments are rarely clean: usually the two are mixed, the first, leading, manifests itself in a safe psychological environment, and the second, called tail, in unfamiliar surroundings. Moreover, if earlier it was believed that the combination of temperaments is possible only horizontally ("stability — instability" that is the choleric person, for example, may fall into melancholy, and the sanguine — phlegmatic slow to), it is now proven that they can be combined arbitrarily.

anyway, to business: what kind of bird you got?

Crystal child-Mimosas with a well-developed intuition and a huge "justwilliam" — he literally feels the skin if someone is bad. Soft, warm, compassionate... But at the same time vulnerable, anxious, pessimistic, insecure, inflexible, self-absorbed. That's because it's an unstable type with a weak nervous system. He's afraid of failing and poorly adapts to new things. Their experiences not shared with anyone. Often falls into over control, creating the illusion of controlling their emotions. Somatically, physically, reacts to any stress — whether it be problems at school or conflict in the family. With him just having a small natural energy, in which case he just can not take myself in hands. Often needs continuous support and support and it is easy to break unlike other types of temperament.

of Course, this temperament can not raise a voice and even more to spank, criticize, intimidate. Imagine how many fears inside one of the melancholic! And so more than enough for three normal children.

And what can and should be? To give a lot of tactile contact, and regardless of age, to stimulate cognitive activity in a safe environment. To teach the rituals to honor, encourage monotonous calm the game and passion for the work is capoterapia and sublimation. It is also important to monitor stress loads in the garden or school adaptation will last three times longer. Not necessary to finish it sports. Speaking of sports: it needs to be an individual, a coach is a magician and without competition. Otherwise melancholic rather get sick than get involved in a struggle.

the Baby-champagne, always ready to explode. He has a strong but unbalanced type of nervous system: energy, adaptability, sociability and persuasiveness are combined with a quick temper, impulsiveness, aggressiveness, harshness and conflict. And all of this is cyclical: the child quickly turns on and quickly depletes, then jump — and then crying. At the same time, it is natural born leaders who are changing the world — innovators and revolutionaries. Of course, if they learn to control the energy, generously measured.

These children develop in us the unconditional love and long term: they do not give quick results, there is always reverse kickbacks — something seems to have changed, and again on the new. Of them not to do a social project (a lot of incentives and expectations): they feel good, only when you win — if not, everything collapses. It is important to give the child the opportunity to realize the activity, and it regularly "walk". Thus it is necessary to avoid overloads, including emotions: choleric lives on tiptoe and breath. He needs to learn to exhale, dosing events and emotions. The violent manifestations to subdue the regime of the day, quiet games, a long-term hobby, aggression to tame the mind.

He's in no hurry: maybe half an hour to Tinker with the shoes, reflecting the complex nature of the relationship between laces and holes... And don't fit — hit the ground with his horns, and it will not move it. He has a strong type of nervous system, but the processes of excitation and inhibition is slow. Its advantages — patience, poise, persistence, peacefulness, diligence, reliability, performance. But the disadvantages become: slowness, rigidity, stubbornness, passivity. Because of the lethargy and indifference he is less involved in the world than others. He is interested with himself, he shifts the focus of attention. So, getting into the environment, requiring flexibility, changing circumstances and response, it has not kept pace. For phlegmatic our entire education system — pain: not feeling time, the child can solve one example of the entire class.

to open myself to this world, it is important the first seven years to live in his rhythm and pace. Because they, like the melancholic, it is impossible to get into school early.

What do you need? To adapt to the pace of Chad, gradually increasing the speed, but not to rush, driving it into stress, and to repeat, and very quiet — phlegmatic hears everything the second time. It is important to teach it effectively to consider your time, to focus, to constantly stimulate cognitive interest. Physical activity is no less important including sports — individual and then team. Where there is competition — there he can use his stubbornness and pressure. To add the phlegmatic initiative, it is necessary to give him a choice (even in trifles), encourage role-playing game that require interaction. It is also important to teach him to distinguish between and to Express their feelings (by example, creativity), otherwise the child will grow up emotionally flat and cold.