recently, I often speak to parents with the following situations:
the child is afraid to sleep alone (aged 4 years);
- child has obsessive fears;
- child is afraid to be alone;
- all being controlled by you (from where you have a feeling of irritation) ;
- the child is often anxious, asks you questions about death and diseases will you just leave it in the kindergarten or school and so on.
Let's deal.
Children's fears are of three types:
1⃣ Fears that are the real cause.
for Example, a child bitten by a dog, and now he is afraid of dogs. The child was punished, left alone in a dark room, and now he is afraid of the dark.
in Other words, the child received a strong negative experiences or stress, which was fixed as the fear.
2⃣ Age fears.
most Often, these fears appear suddenly and are also, if not happening at this stage of development of the child, no traumatic or stressful situations.
3⃣ fantasy Fears generated by the imagination of the child and/or other reasons.
It is with these fears to me are increasingly began to address the parents. These fears for adults difficult to understand.
will Give a few reasons for the emergence of fears of a third group:
🔷 the baby has a genetic predisposition towards high emotionality.
🔷 the Child does not feel the authority of parents.
🔷 Parents use the style "we agree" and try not to be reputable for adults, and more other.
‼Each type of fear requires different actions from parents.
What to do? How to help your child?
1⃣ To children's fears should be treated with respect!
2⃣ make them fear something bigger, not maintain its value, it will only reinforce his presence.
3⃣ it would be Good to understand the fear which group you're dealing with.
4⃣ Talk to the child support, saying: "I understand you're scared. But everything will be fine, I'm with you”.
5⃣ Tell the child, what scared you.
6⃣ Offer to paint his fear, as if to meet him.
7⃣ if the child is present fear of the third group, contact specialist to reduce the stress of the child and to obtain recommendations.
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