Today is an important day for our country – victory Day! Congratulations to all of us! Kowtow and eternal memory of our ancestors!
Not planned consultation happened to me today right at the time of the concert. I couldn't stay away and with the permission of the parties to the conflict intervened.
- you Know how she worries! He cries so hard that no one can calm can not" - loudly, hysterically, gesticulating and shaking his head, spoke the mother, holding the hand of a girl with a serious face, look scared and the doomed.
- Tell us what happened. Your daughter looks quite calm. Maybe I can help? What happened to you? I asked, standing next to the teacher with tears in his eyes dimmed.
- I know my kid! She sure is upset! mom said, with tears sprayed. Meanwhile, the girl rotated the head in different directions, as if looking for rescue, trying to break away from the grasping hands of his mother, fiercely defending "violated the rights of the child." the Girl managed to find a way to retreat to a safe distance from the mother only 15 minutes, and mom's attention she was trying to raise all available means at least 5 minutes.
I was talking to a woman about an hour. Resentment against teachers, methods of teaching and education that the daughter is not such that it can be difficult, four children, and then there's this!?
the crux of the matter lay in the fact that the vocal coach to the concert program took the rooms without the participation of the girls. Mother was indignant, why her child is not acting in the town square. The teacher feels a sense of guilt, the mother tells the horrifying story of what is now the house will be hours of hysterical girls, and blame ... the vocal teacher. And that she (the mother) to do now? She (the girl) is now home to cry for an hour!
have been Told in the presence of the girl from her mother for a woman you barely know, and even in the town square in the presence of many onlookers, a large number of unpleasant details of the life of the girl and the girl.
How often parents do not see, do not understand, destroy their own children, publicly devaluing their branding, exposing their own ambitions for their wishes!?
What was I to do? To work. allow the mother to feelings, to protect the teacher in a safe and sound first and foremost, to make the child (the adorable blue-eyed girl) became more comfortable, better and safer.
I Started with whatwas filled with mom all, repeatedly reiterating that I understand it, in its place any person it would be hard. As a result, after 15 minutes my daughter was able to retreat to a safe distance, and the teacher continued to participate in the concert.
Next, to my companion as if all the problems of the past collapsed in one moment, all the resentment and indignation swept over her, and it was not an easy ordeal for both of us. All of my questions and statements were built on the paradigm of the present and the future. Parent complains that a lot of situations with her daughter happened, and I told her about future concerts and opportunities.
the Mother denied the future possibilities, saying that nothing good will last. - We both wanted, I was so hoping that I come from your center not licked, and you with us so the concert was not invited! (in the sense of vocal coach-and-so).
Many times with questions I provoked the interviewee that she was talking about her daughter, not about yourself. About her abilities, talents, preferences and experiences. Finally, mom spoke as a mother. Mom recognized the ability of her daughter, her desire to sing and learn vocals. - It was an actual victory for me! My mom finally started to talk about the interests of her daughter and about her, about what she is, what she likes and what she wants. This story lasted a long time. I again supported, approved of, praised and parent and the girl. Mood my companion had improved significantly, she straightened up. Smiled, has significantly reduced the distance with me. It seemed to me that the woman here for me. Meanwhile, the girl found in the crowd, friends or relatives and asked permission from mother to go to visit them. Mom said with a smile on her face. The girl was happy. It was her children's ease . This development was interpreted by me as the best, most kid-friendly.
Concluding the conversation, I asked her: if she wants to know what she should do to her daughter not crying for hours, back to the beginning of our conversation..
- of Course I do! – looking me in the eyes, the woman said.
- Believe in your daughter! What lies ahead for your child to have a great bright future. Keep it up and know that if a girl will develop their abilities, will succeed. Remember that Your daughter is still a child, and the most important her teacher is her mom! Overcome difficulties together, help her, be an example in everything. Kidding, think of the difficulties with humor and play. Love! Please be assured that all will be well!
At parting, I smiled widely and with dignity, said she is pleased if I could help. All will be well, you – a loving mother of a sweet little girl, is already a great happiness!
Thank you for your attention and comments. Love and Trust – All will be well!
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