For working with children, I once purchased a set of animal figures. With figures of children are more willing to talk about themselves, about relationships with parents and peers.
for Example, I ask the child to choose who he of these animals, who are mom, dad, grandparents. And those who are older, are asked to imagine that these animals are a football team and have each player (the animal) to give the title: "the shot-grandma", "Forward-aunt", "Half-dad", etc. is Very exciting. The child opens and you can communicate with him easily.
But it turned out that the adults work with figures gives excellent results. Clients can immediately see how they build relationships with partners, husbands, their children. What are they and what qualities have.
for Example, I select client, it is what animal and what animal her man. And ask to put on the table these figures as they wish. Interesting, but a woman always puts in the space the figures so, what are her relations with a partner in the present moment. If the conflict, she puts the animals muzzle to muzzle. If the husband is "whipped" and irresponsible, puts the figure of the "husband" behind him (photo # 3). Well, if the relationship is harmonious (really rarely), the client puts the figure and the figure of her husband close.
You can also use figures in their lives. Buy one, two sets of plastic animal figures. They are sold in stores "Children's world", in "Toys". Are cheap (200-300 rubles)
Come to you girlfriend to visit. You drink her tea and hold intimate conversations. And want something edakogo) Ask her:" Mary, that if you were an animal, what?" Ask long not to think, and to name the first thing that comes to mind. Ask them to give the three most accurate epithet regarding this animal. Either let them describe the animal.
for Example, Masha says, "I am a cat. The cat that walks by itself. She is affectionate, but loves freedom. She needed distance in order to feel good. When she wants, she approaches his master and asks to stroke her. She is relaxed and likes to have her play."
And suddenly, Mary realizes that she and love life as a cat. Her satisfied and she wants is a relationship which proclaims the cat.
If you have children, you can apply the figures in the games with their children. Encourage your child to play with you. Let him recruit his own team of football players (hockey).
Tell him: "Sasha (Tanya), get a team of people whom you want." The child usually has a team of family and friends. If he is older than 10-12 years, then the team is likely to be his peers, the real guys from school. But if under 10 years of age, the team will consist of himself, his mom, dad, grandparents and other relatives.
let's See what role he takes for himself, for you, for their peers. He is the captain of the team? He is the goalkeeper? Or sitting on the bench? Play and you. Type in your team those people (animals) who want to see venom myself. Who are these people? Who are you in this team: striker, defender, goalkeeper?
Play with it as if it were actually a real match. Actively help the players move the figures by hand. But do not break the rules. It would be appropriate to explain to the child the rules of the game before the match) Allow the child to be active. If you are a mom with the command type of education, it is likely that the child will be afraid to apply to you and your team blows. Encourage him for his courage.
during the game you will learn about your child a lot. In a few minutes you will learn about who your child befriends, what are his relationships with family and peers. And how would he like to see those relationships develop.
Just watch. Don't ask questions like : "why don't you want to be captain of the team." It is better to say" Oh, midfielder, great!" But when you realize why he's there and not elsewhere, ask him, "do you want to be a striker?" If the child quietly replied that he and the defenders well, that is his choice. It is not necessary to force him to be who he is. If he strained, changes in the face, closed, so this topic is over what to work. Him and you, as the parent.
so, what is you animal? Now tell us who you are, and give three epithets. You can in the comments)
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