Parenting with his unconditional positive effect can have negative (destructive) in nature, which is reflected in the methods of the "black pedagogy". The impact of such pedagogy is capable to injure mentality of the child in particular to determine the passivity, indifference, fear of life, inability to make decisions, a sense of insecurity, loneliness, causing infantilism.
Parenting with his unconditional positive effect may be destructive in nature, which finds expression in the methods of the "black pedagogy". The impact of this pedagogy capable of causing degradation of the psyche of the child in particular: passivity, indifference, fear of life, inability to make decisions, a sense of insecurity, loneliness, giving rise to infantilism. The destructive aspect of educational influence on the human psyche revealed in the research: I. A. Smirnova, B. C. Babkinoj, A. I. Zakharova. Researchers indicate that educational impact is aimed at the promotion of the child to the social ideal by creating restrictions. So pedagogy, a destructive influence on the personality of the child and outlines how the "black pedagogy". General views of the researchers is that methods of "black pedagogy" to destroy the personality of the child, causing the formation of dysfunctions of the psyche.
According to research by I. A. Smirnova, C. B. Sobkin the most common parenting style in single-parent families is unsustainable style: hepaprotective, lost, emotional rejection of the child. The researchers note that the unstable type of parenting can lead to a rigidity of thinking of the child, the inability to analyze their own actions and experiences. E. O. Smirnova and B. C. Sobkin describe education by type of hepaprotective and emotional coldness: "child abuse can manifest itself openly, when the child is "angry" with the use of violence when between the child and parents is a wall of emotional coldness and hostility". The consequence of such relations is the formation of the child's feeling of uselessness, exclusion, Brasenose contributing to an inferiority complex. Develops a sense of inferiority, futility of life and at the same time aggression and hatred, which manifests itself in antisocial behavior. This amplifies internal contradiction, giving rise to destructive tendencies. This position adheres to O. M. Lomako indicating that education raises an internal contradiction, because a child is prepared for hostility on the part of the world. This attitude to life, makes the subject "become a scout of a new aggressive world, to decide what to do - to accept or assign this world.
So fear the outside world which is cultivated from childhood in the parental home, may give rise to infantilism: timidity, passivity, fear of responsibility, passivity, inability to enjoy life, indicating the formation of psychological impotence. Education determines the child's desire to please my parents, it involves the repression of his needs and the will of the other person. There is an aggravation of internal contradictions: on the one hand, "I want to be me" and the other don't want to lose the love of parents. Absorption of child to the parent position in relation to itself forms a certain attitude, namely: I love myself, I hate that they don't take themselves and things like that. The child is doomed to "earn" the love of parents, and hence a good attitude. Under these conditions, the failure to absorb the activity (energy) that goes to self-criticism, self-blame, feelings of resentment towards parents. Formed the ambivalent attitude to the demands of parents, and hence to itself, which prevents the promotion to the desired ideal.
the Subject psychologically InterMedia, because it spends energy not achieve the desired goal, and the feelings of inferiority He "embodies punishing parents", and experiences any failure actualizes a tendency to self-punishment, which finds expression in self-blame, self-restraint, and the like. Is the fixation on the traumatic childhood experiences, which explains "the appeal of the subject in the past." The requirements of parents before the child determinarea conditional love: "I'll love you if you do good in school", giving rise to a feeling of abandonment, distrust of sincere love of the parents. So, "love" adults acquired through obedience, is intended not him (the child) who he was really.
Depression and spiritual emptiness is a punishment for self-control, when the real "I" of the subject does not manifest, it remains in an undeveloped state, in the "inner prison". The latter finds expression in infantilism, aggression, contempt of others. So, having survived the influence of black teachers, the individual remains a small defenseless creature, "the devil" exists in the subconscious of many adults. Until this little person inside us, unable to understand what had happened to her - until then, his inner world remains submissive to the injured child. Thus, what is laid in childhood determines the actions of the subject in adult life.
Infantilism may be due to "pampered" upbringing. For these subjects is a characteristic of narcissism, moodiness, irritability, inability of self-realization, the hypertrophy of the idea of their social "I". Such people can be characterized by clumsiness, slowness, along with the erudition, intelligence. They are characterized by irresponsibility in the use of their knowledge, because such people are inattentive, shy. They are painfully experiencing their own failures, vulnerable and have difficulties in communicating with peers.
to Summarize, the "black pedagogy" can lead to capsulate child in the family that perpetuate infantilism and psychological impotence develops because fear of the surrounding world, of life, passivity, fear of taking responsibility. The subject can see the power of pride, obstinacy, perseverance own views, uncompromising, which falls into its conditional values and causes infantile position. The above conditional values can create the illusion of protection from the outside world, which is issued to the subject is grim, hostile, and dangerous. Educational impact is aimed at promoting the child to a social ideal through bans and restrictions. Happens aggravation of the internal contradictions of the child on the one hand strives to be other, and the other doesn't want to lose the love of parents and follows their injunctions, expectations. This contradiction blocks the development of personality in adulthood and now any failure generates blame, resentment, humiliation, and prejudice towards others . All this hinders the promotion of the individual to the desired goal.
Doctor of philosophy, PHD, candidate of psychological Sciences, associate Professor, Cherkasy national University. B. Khmelnitsky
a life coach, art therapist leading a psychotherapy group. A member of the NGO "Ukraine and Ukrainians Abroad" the United States, in the edition of the scientific journal "American Journal of Fundamental, Applied & Experimental Research", consultant Positum Systems.
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